Room M-24

Room M-24 - Anchor Of Promise

She stepped on the scale again.  It was lower than the day before. Down to 110 pounds, she slowly got off the scale and went to look for food to eat.  She knew that it was not good to go without food.  With the refrigerator wide open, she stood there pondering what she should eat.  After pondering the idea, she closed the door. She just couldn’t do it.  She wanted to but didn’t have the desire.

Back to bed she went. Shutting out the world around her was all she could handle.  All she could do was cry.  She had hoped it was all a bad nightmare in which she could wake up and everything would be okay.  Hours later from her sleep, the same crisis remained.  Nothing had changed.  Continue reading

Parenting Choices Gone Wrong

Parenting Choices Gone Wrong - Anchor of Promise

When you have a teen in crisis, you are always in fix mode.  It comes with the territory when you are especially a parent with the characteristics of compassion and caring.

I would be the first one in line to raise my hand and say I have this problem.  I call it a problem instead of a help because let’s get real, it can cause many problems.  That compassion can lead to enabling behavior in a way that will be destructive.

How may you ask?  Here’s an example.  Your teen has had issues with drinking.  But you are afraid them drinking at other places or meet up with friends and go crazy on drinking. So, you allow them to drink at home or you give them a drink that is less addictive in your mind such as a glass of wine.

You haven’t encouraged them to not drink. You haven’t encouraged them to take responsibility in a way that will cut dry their alcohol addiction for good.  You have not sought counsel for them. Instead, you have reasoned with yourself that you can keep them from getting worse.  That my dear friend is enabling. That is not leading them to a road of recovery but to more destructive behavior.

It doesn’t have to be about drinking.  It could be about an eating disorder, a drug addiction, a self-harm issue.  Whatever their crisis is, it is your crisis too. Continue reading

When Other Parents Are Afraid of Your Teen

When Other Parents Are Afraid of Your Teen - Anchor Of Promise

Your teen wants to hang out with her friend.  They have been best buds for years.  But your teen has been going through some very difficult problems.  So difficult, that it has caused concern by other parents.

Before you know it, your teen’s social life has dwindled and parents are giving excuses why their teen can’t socialize with your teen.  The more parents you talk to, the more their stories sound the same.

“Sorry, my teen is involved in a new commitment.”

“Sorry but maybe another time.”

“Would like for them to get together but they will be too busy for an extended period of time.”

Then the stares begin.  Or maybe you got a phone call by a relative or school official because they were contacted by another parent over the concern of what they’ve seen or heard. Continue reading