2021 Silver Medal Enduring Lights Award

There is nothing more awarding than receiving a medal to honor your written work. For me, this was God-given. Six years ago, God gave me this vision to write a devotional for parents with teens and young adults in crisis. It was a devotional that would hit every emotion that a parent struggles with when confronted with a child in crisis. Never in my mind would I have believed that I would receive three extraordinary blessings – this award, the endorsement by Jim Daly of Focus on the Family, and now the book becoming digital and offered around the world. Thank you to all that have supported me in this journey. May God get the glory and may many parents be ministered to through Turning the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens and Young Adults in Crisis.

Hurts That Run Deep

Ouch!  Like the snap of a stretched rubber band that stings when it hits you, that is often the feeling you get when your child in crisis has hurt your heart. 

Most hurts are emotional than physical.  Either way, they can both be painful.  Hurts can also have a lasting effect on your relationship between you and your teen/young adult.  

Parents don’t ask or beg for it.  Like a punch to the stomach unexpectedly, they are taken by surprise with the aim more to the heart.  

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He Came to Save Us, All of Us

As the world comes to a pause to celebrate Christ’s death and resurrection, I am reminded of how much He cares for each and every one of us, and especially so, for our broken and wayward children. 

All around us has become filled with fear, hopelessness, anger, and depression.  People of many ages and families struggling to get through the days and nights.  Every morning there is another highlight of something that is discouraging or news that creates more despair.  

The Heavenly Father knew our world would be troubled.  He knew that we needed to be saved from our own sin and death.  He knew a Savior was needed to give us life. 

What hope would there be if Christ did not give His life as an offering so that we could live? What mercy would we have had if Christ changed His mind and walked away from death?  Today we live in a hurting and dying world where everyone is searching for answers.  The good news is that our Savior has come, and IS our ANSWER! 

Parents, God gave us His Son to not only give us eternal life, but to set our children free from their life of pain, waywardness, hurt, and brokenness.  God already knew the plan before it was set forth.  Part of His plan was to set captives free through Jesus. Those captives are our sons and daughters who are struggling with addictions, self-injury, mental illness, disorders, a life of crime, sexual identity issues, and more.  

Jesus’ blood on the cross was more than just forgiving and cleansing us from our sin.  His blood was a healing lifeline for us and our children.  Thank you Father, for your compassion on us!

So as you look upon your teen and young adult this day, remember, Jesus already bore his life on the cross for your child and one day, they will encounter freedom in Him like nothing they have ever experienced before.  Keep praying parent.  Our HOPE has risen! Jesus Christ our Lord!

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

How Do You Handle a Response to Judgment as a Parent?

Parenting is a lifetime of judgment.  Let’s face it, there is no guidebook on parenting when you have a teen or young adult in crisis and we all make mistakes along the way.  I can raise both hands on this and say I made aplenty.   

I certainly was not as proactive as I could have been. However, I also did not understand mental illness or disorders either and most parents don’t in the beginning. I have come a long way since then and my failures and experiences are now the top key things I am very open about so that other parents don’t fall into the same trap as I did.  

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