This is NOT What I Prayed For

This is NOT What I Prayed For - Anchor Of Promise

 

Have you ever asked God to intervene in your teen’s life at any cost?  Have you ever been desperate enough to give God choices to remedy the crisis?  When the answer came, were you prepared for how God handled it?

When I was in one of those situations, I prayed, by giving God two choices that I asked for thinking those requests would rectify the problem.  However, when the answer came, it was what I had asked, but way more than what I had planned, wanted or could handle.

In fact, the answer that I received was heartbreaking, devastating, scary, painful, and wishing that I had never prayed the prayer that I did.  I don’t think that I had ever cried so much or been so fearful of what was presented to me from that answer. Continue reading

From Suicide to a Life of Pain

From Suicide to a Life of Pain - Anchor Of Promise

When my daughter was nine, she would play on a game called Fantage.  It was a cute cartoon game that encouraged fun, imagination, and pretend.  They of course had parental controls in which you could oversee your child’s time on the game as well as how much contact they could have with others.

They were good at making sure curse words or any sexual innuendo did not take place.  But kids as they are today, find ways to get around that despite how child-like this game is.  With little chat bubbles, friends would follow each other around Fantage, playing games, meeting up with new pals, and buying the latest craze at the store with their ecoins.

One day however, a so-called new friend started to meet my daughter in the Fantage cartoon world and requested she go on another chat game without my knowledge.  This new chat place had a video chat in which you could see a live person.  That day changed my daughter’s life forever.  Continue reading

It’s OKAY to Talk About Your Feelings

It's OKAY to Talk About Your Feelings - Anchor Of Promise

Does your teen know it’s okay to talk about the emotions they have when they feel lost, depressed, sad, and hopeless?

On July 31, rugby player Luke Ambler said this, “My brother-in-law killed himself back in April and it was completely out of the blue.”

Because it left his family devastated, he felt that something needed to be done.  So he created the Andy’s Man Club in the United Kingdom.

Wanting other men to not be afraid to talk about their feelings or about suicide, he took a selfie of himself using the OK hand symbol to let others know that it IS okay to talk about how you feel.

According to the CDC, males take their own lives at nearly four times the rate of females and represent 77.9% of all suicides (2015 Suicide Data Sheet).

This is partially due to the fact that young boys/men don’t normally share their feelings.  In fact, they feel uncomfortable in doing so.  To teens/young men, showing emotions such as sadness or depression is a sign of weakness.  Women on the other hand, are encouraged to share their feelings and how crying or sadness is acceptable.

Fathers and men of humbleness and strength can change this attitude.  They can encourage that talking about their struggles, their weaknesses, and their sadness is a part of empowering them.  It releases the pent up emotional toll that they have been carrying.  With a message like this being shared by a man, that gives young male teens and men the permission to share their hurts and pain without shame.

This is the first big step in curbing suicidal tendencies.  With Suicide Prevention this week, let’s spread the news that YES! It’s OKAY to talk about your emotions, feelings, struggles, hurts and pain.

She Screamed As Loud As She Could

She Screamed As Loud As She Could - Anchor of Promise

Going down the expressway, her screams became louder and more piercing.  She couldn’t stop.  She was beyond overwhelmed.  She could not put into words how she felt.  All she could do was scream.  One long scream after the other as she drove.

“Jesus!” “Jesus!”  “Help my child Jesus!”

Tears flowed down her face as she tried to keep her focus on the road.  The information she received devastated her.  How was she going to get through her workday with this newest development?

It was out of her hands.  She had nothing to hold on to but her faith.  Her prayers became groans of such deep pain.  She felt so helpless. She could not see the answers with her human eyes.  This was something only God could do.

Sleep was hard to come by during those early morning hours.  She tossed and turned while her thoughts raced.  Nearing her work place, she wiped her tears hoping no one would notice her blushed face from crying.  Continue reading