Living with a teen in crisis is tiring. Let’s face it. You are drained emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. All you want is a sabbatical from the daily life of an out of control teen who constantly displays risky and dangerous behavior. You’re fed up. You have nothing else to give to change what is happening.
I remember many times in which things were so bad that I wanted to run away. I also wanted to kill myself. Yep! I went through so many emotions – shock, confusion, anger, depression, days of constant crying, and days of not even caring to feed myself. Continue reading
I’ve been ignoring it. I’ve been walking by it. I’ve put it off day after day. But today, I couldn’t close my eyes to it anymore.
Weeds. I hate weeds. Obviously they are a nuisance. They get out of control. They will overtake you. They will drive you insane. What is more irritating is how some of them will trick you to believe that they just might end up as a beautiful bonafide flower. Problem is, you have to wait it out to know for sure.
Weeds. I hate weeds. Now of course I could attack them with a top of the line weed killer spray. Unfortunately, that will also kill off all the flowers you so preciously have cared for that the weeds have so graciously grew up next to. If you want those flowers to last and last, this leaves you no other option but to be proactive to fight every weed that comes near your flowers and tries to choke it to death. Continue reading
When I was growing up, I was not very close to my father. In fact, as I got older in my teen years, my relationship was almost non-existent. We rarely spoke. Although I badly wanted to have a relationship with him, part of the problem was due to the fact that he was an only child. He also experienced the loss of his mother at the age of twelve and the rejection of his own father soon after that loss.
Needless to say, he was not given a good fatherly image nor was he able to truly deal with all the heavy baggage he carried as he aged. Continue reading
She was 16, pregnant, and involved in a relationship with someone in their twenties. When asked why she would be with a man who obviously didn’t care about her, all she could say was, “I could never leave him. I love him. Yes, he has hit me. But I’m okay with that.”
The young man was sweet and caring. He would do anything for the girl he loved. However, he also was willing to allow her to hit him, curse him, threaten him, emotionally manipulate, and humiliate him in private and in public. Yet, his love for her would remain. Continue reading
There is a common thread that unites many parents of teens today affected with mental illness. This thread is the unwillingness or refusal by teens to take medication for their mental impairment.
It is frustrating, scary and overwhelming. How can you help your teen when all they do is battle you? You beg, plead, bribe, or threaten in every way for them to take their medicine. None of it works.
So what does work? There is only one place to get that answer – your teen.
Now you may think the only response you are going to get from your teen is the word, “No!” After all, that is a common word you have been confronted with daily. Just because they give a negative answer does not mean that teens want to live in a life of mental confusion. They truly want what every other teen has – normalcy or free of illness. Continue reading