Have you ever thought for a random second or two that there is something really wrong with your child? Did a horrendous thought pop in your head about your child doing something that is beyond your scope to imagine? Maybe it was a word spoken, an action taken, a response you were not expecting.
Maybe your son or daughter made a comment about how much they hated the world and wanted to rid them. Maybe it was a slammed door that reverberated throughout the house by a trigger that set them off in anger and violence. How about the moment in which you see markings on your child from self-harm or written words on their body that made you wonder what they have gotten themselves into now. Continue reading
During my years of being a parent of a teen and young adult in crisis, I have delved many times into the world of great mourning.
Mourning can mean many different things to parents. It can be an extreme loss such as the death of a child through addiction. It could be through the painful emotional death of a child who rejected their own gender to be another. Maybe it is the aching of seeing your deeply depressed and suicidal child talk only of death and not caring about anyone or anything else this life has to offer. Continue reading
When a police officer was asked how many robberies he had responded to since the Coronavirus impacted our country, the answer was quite revealing.
He only had to say a few words – “No robberies, family violence is what we are dealing with now.” Police stations across the country are seeing an increase of double digits in violence within the home. Although most of them are domestic violence between husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc…, we cannot leave out the violence that transpires between a parent and child.
The COVID-19 crisis has now developed into a family crisis. Even as Christians, we are not immune to violence and abuse in the home when you are dealing with a hurting and broken teen/young adult. Either we snap as a parent or our child does. Continue reading
I admit it. If I have the chance to hide from my teen, I would do it in a heartbeat. There are just times in which I have to go to my escape room and lock the door.
I hid there for many reasons. When I kept myself from acting out against my own teen and regret my words or actions, my escape room was the place to go. Other reasons were to keep my sanity or not allow my teen to see me fall apart. I went there for solitude, to help me think, and to let go of my own pain of being a parent to a child in constant crisis. Continue reading
Families stuck in their homes. Four walls. No personal room to breathe and dealing with a teen or young adult in crisis. Yikes! How in the world as a parent am I going to get through this?
Well, we can go under or rise above it. Today, I rise above it. How? First pray! You cannot successfully survive unless you put God and prayer first. That’s not a thought. This is imperative if you want to get through the coming days and weeks.
So let me get frank. I have a daughter with multiple issues. PTSD, CAPD, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Short Term Memory issues, and the list goes on. I have survived ten years with these problems. They were much worse than what they are now. In fact, suicidal ideology, sub-culture identity issues, self-harm, and a few others were added into that mix many years ago.
I am amazed in my tenacity and perseverance that kept me going when there were many times I struggled with the idea of giving up. I was tired, worn, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and filled with shame as a parent. Continue reading