Single Moms with Teens in Crisis – Meet Lynn

 

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When we think of “parents with a teen in crisis” we immediately come to the conclusion that mom and dad are involved.  However, there are also thousands of single moms and dads who struggle as parents too.  One such parent is my friend Lynn.  I asked her to share with me some of the difficulties she has endured as a single parent with a teen in crisis. We pray that you will find encouragement through Lynn’s story and that you are not alone in your single parenting journey.

Were you a stay at home mom or working mom when you noticed your daughter’s issues? I am a working mom who works from home and also cared for my mother who had health issues. Both of my daughters now are ages 21 and 23.

Each parent with a child in crisis has a story.  Can you give me a little background of how you became aware that your children were dealing with a serious issue?   While my oldest has had anger and insecurity issues due to a divorce, it is my youngest that has been most concerning.  In her senior year of high school her grades began to drop, she spoke of hating school and had friendships end.  I later came to find out that she was sexually assaulted by a football player who trapped her in his car.  She told no one.  To cope, she began experimenting with drugs.  She chose to attend a city college (which was a good move) but in her second year, I began to see her breakdown emotionally little by little.   At the end of the year, she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years, told me she was bi-sexual and began living a wild lifestyle.    She went skydiving, had her septum pierced, began losing weight rapidly, out at very late hours of the night, and clearly came home wasted.  My daughters and I are very close, are able to have transparent conversation and purpose time together.  So, not only was I trying to deal with her behavior, she shut me out of her life; I was a roommate of insignificance.  When school started again in the fall, she was having difficulty focusing, and tried working two jobs.  In January, she confessed she felt there was something mentally wrong with her as she began pulling out her hair and cutting herself.   She agreed to go into counseling which lead to a psychiatric diagnosis of bi-polar.  She is on medication and continues seeing her counselor which is helping her work through some core issues. Continue reading

Do You Know the Drug of Choice Among Teens Today?

Do You Know the Drug Choice Among Teens Today - Anchor Of Promise

 

Each year, month, and even week, a new drug is on the streets or should I say in the hands of teens.  With the passing of laws to allow marijuana in the states, it has only fueled other drugs to become more prevalent among our teens.

With interest, I googled the current drug trends among our teens and realized that I had been out of the loop in educating myself and I’m sure other parents too.

The Partnership For Drug-Free Kids –  Drug Trends of Today Among Teens , educates you about these new drugs and how to be ahead of the game in combatting them.  Our worst fears years ago – marijuana.  Although today it is considered a mild form of drug use compared to the hard core drugs such as cocaine, meth or the high rise of opioid use today, it is a drug nonetheless and dangerous (even moreso when laced, used with alcohol, and mixed with other drugs).  Since the passage of the usage of marijuana, there have been record numbers of overdoses among hospitals.

Are you really prepared as a parent to know what to look for when it comes to drugs and your teen?  If you already have a child in crisis with an addiction, it is even more imperative to be connected with a support group, counselor or rehab.  They can teach you what to look for and how to battle it. Christian Rehabs

There are also great resources and tools that can be found on the internet, through friends, support groups, counselors, and even the Church.  TEEN CHALLENGE continues to have a high rate of successful stories within their program for many teens to young adults.

To look at things with our own eyes instead of God’s, it is easy to feel defeated with this battle against drugs.  All we see and know are the vast army of drug lords, addicts, and drug pimps who look to steal, kill, and destroy.  John 10:10 – The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.  Our God is strong and mighty and He will do all of the fighting for us.  It is HIS battle.  We just need to be steadfast on our part by being educated, not enabling, showing tough love, and spending time on our knees in prayer.

This is what the LORD says to you:

“Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army.

For the battle is not yours, but God’s.”

2 Chronicles 20:15

 

 

 

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Father’s Day Letter From a Hurting Teen

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Keep praying Dads!  Your teen or young adult will one day come back and thank you too for never giving up on them.  This dad knows it.  There is HOPE!  Keep your faith in God as you continue to lift up your child to Him.  And thank you to this Dad for sharing this letter with Anchor Of Promise.  Happy Father’s Day!

The Silent Epidemic in Our Teens

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There is a silent epidemic happening in our country of young teens, most specifically male youths.  I call it silent because you don’t always see it. It is often hidden from others. In fact, it hides behind a facade that everything is okay, when in reality, something is brewing.

Here are some prime examples of this silent epidemic.

17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis killed 10 people in Santa Fe High School – he was supposedly bullied and rejected by a girl that he liked.  Noted as being quiet and to himself. 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/18/us/dimitrios-pagourtzis-gunman-texas-shooting.html

Nikolas Cruz slaughtered at least 17 students at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas HS – a loner, supposedly had impulse issues, was bullied, had major losses in his life with the death of his parents.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/02/15/florida-shooting-what-we-know-attack-parkland-high-school/340110002/

A 15-year-old teen with the help of two friends, strangled and stabbed his mother to death in Maine because they moved.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/04/24/out-control-teen-son-and-friends-strangled-stabbed-mom-over-move-to-maine-cops-say.html

16 year-old beats friend to death with baseball bat over jealousy of a girl he liked.

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/florida-16-old-allegedly-beats-friend-death-baseball-153404802–abc-news-topstories.html   

This silent epidemic is called Anger.  It’s an emotion that is in each and every one of us.  This includes growth spurting hormonal teenagers. Most teens express their anger through yelling, slamming doors, running off, or finding a place to be alone for hours.  Those types of responses are expected. However, for some teens, their anger differs. Their anger lingers and builds quietly, layer upon layer, with no filters or boundaries in place.   It lays dormant inside until an event triggers a volcanic eruption of violence that knows no limits. Continue reading

A Mother’s Love

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Moms across this nation are faced with a family in crisis – mainly their teen or young adult.  That crisis comes in the form of addiction, mental illness, suicidal tendencies, eating disorders, and many more problematic issues.  

Along with those crises, are tsunami size emotions.  Moms are especially hit hard with these emotions because it is part of a mother’s make-up of who we are as a woman.  God specifically made us that way so that we could connect more intimately with those around us, such as our children.  

When we think of “mother” we think of words such as – compassionate, loving, forgiving, kind, and selfless.  However, when a mother is confronted with a child in crisis, those descriptions change to a mother who is sad, angry, hurt, worried, and stressed.  Combine all of those descriptions and emotions and you have a mother whose is fighting a major battle for her child’s life.

That battle for that mother uses special tools –  Counseling, therapy, reading of His Word and PRAYER!  It is hard, and tough with a lot of sweat and tears and also some insanity.   Continue reading