I came across this article today written by Ashley Edwardson and was truly disturbed. I felt it was important to pass on because if considered to be a right, all children would be at risk.
When I first saw this video without reading the meaning behind it or even listening to the words, it was shocking and yet at the same time, very truth-telling of someone who has experienced sexual abuse. Sia (an Australian music artist) specifically wrote this song about the painful journey of finding love after enduring heartbreak and was expressed through this video. However, because the video was done with a 12-year-old dancer and 28-year-old dancer/actor, it spoke volumes of something more evil and tragic.
I have touched on this very issue in one of my other posts but this says it all in video form. When a child, pre-teen has been trained in being molested and sexually abused, they want to fight off their predator/molester but do not know how. There is anger, hurt, pain, fear, and so much more which is very well expressed through this young girl in the video. But what is more disturbing and unfortunately very real today with some sexually abused victims, is how they will often feel bad for their predator and will even protect them. It is known as the Stockholm Syndrome.
Even in the end, you find that the young girl will try to rescue the man despite the pain that was given. Please understand that although this video was not meant to be about what I am sharing, it definitely shows you a good portrayal of what a victim of sexual abuse or even domestic abuse (from child to adult) thinks and feels and does.
Please note: If you have suffered from sexual abuse there can be a triggering effect of flashbacks, painful memories and more. Best to have someone watch with you.
She had a huge crush on the boy. She was only 9 but he was much older. A mere 14 years of age but old enough to know what he was doing. Picking up on the fact that she didn’t feel good about herself, he honed in on her crush and took advantage of it.
Opportunities presented themselves in which on-line chats were formed. He told her how pretty she was and that no one would love her the way he did. He said all the right words for her to hear. Feeling so unworthy at such a young age, she soaked up the praises being bestowed upon her and was willing to do anything in return for his devotion.
Then it happened. This day she could do something for him. This was not how she wanted to make him happy, but she felt obligated because he was so kind to her.
“I want you to take off your shirt,” he said. She balked at the idea because it felt so wrong to her. But then, she had changed her mind. Why? “If you don’t do this, I will kill you and your family. I have done a lot for you. I’m your master now. You have no one but me because I know the real you. So do what I say,” he threatened. Continue reading
Naomi Hunter wrote a gentle and effective way to help children and teens talk about sexual abuse. Parents, Teachers, Psychologists, and more give high praises for her book that was colorfully written to help expose this very difficult topic to discuss. It is her first children’s story book and has been featured on Mamamia.com, ABC, 2UE radio, and That’s Life Magazine.
If you would like to get a copy of her book, please click on the link below.
I would like to promote a new book by Jayneen Sanders called, “Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept”. The author saw a special need for many children and parents who did not have available a good teaching tool on self-protection as well as learn how to speak up and against sexual abuse.
This book can help educate parents, kids, teachers and caretakers on sexual abuse. Sexual abuse statistics have risen so much in the past few years and not only is the child abused but is also not believed.
Throughout the pages you will be able to see how abuse is cultivated and groomed in the first place. You will also be able to understand on how to look for the signs that something is wrong and what to do. This book is has a colorful and easy reading layout. With lots of pictures in a story time of long ago, it is written beautifully to not scare but to encourage listening and discussion for all involved.
Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept is also available in a teaching format with workbooks, discussion questions and coloring pages. Please either purchase the book for yourself, a friend or even as a donation to your local library. This link will take you directly to Jayneen’s website which gives valuable information as well as purchasing the book and teaching tools.