It’s OKAY to Talk About Your Feelings

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Does your teen know it’s okay to talk about the emotions they have when they feel lost, depressed, sad, and hopeless?

On July 31, rugby player Luke Ambler said this, “My brother-in-law killed himself back in April and it was completely out of the blue.”

Because it left his family devastated, he felt that something needed to be done.  So he created the Andy’s Man Club in the United Kingdom.

Wanting other men to not be afraid to talk about their feelings or about suicide, he took a selfie of himself using the OK hand symbol to let others know that it IS okay to talk about how you feel.

According to the CDC, males take their own lives at nearly four times the rate of females and represent 77.9% of all suicides (2015 Suicide Data Sheet).

This is partially due to the fact that young boys/men don’t normally share their feelings.  In fact, they feel uncomfortable in doing so.  To teens/young men, showing emotions such as sadness or depression is a sign of weakness.  Women on the other hand, are encouraged to share their feelings and how crying or sadness is acceptable.

Fathers and men of humbleness and strength can change this attitude.  They can encourage that talking about their struggles, their weaknesses, and their sadness is a part of empowering them.  It releases the pent up emotional toll that they have been carrying.  With a message like this being shared by a man, that gives young male teens and men the permission to share their hurts and pain without shame.

This is the first big step in curbing suicidal tendencies.  With Suicide Prevention this week, let’s spread the news that YES! It’s OKAY to talk about your emotions, feelings, struggles, hurts and pain.

Wake Up! Your Teen Is Trying To Tell You Something!

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The above quote was by my daughter in the height of her depression and suicidal tendencies. As a parent, it was difficult to hear but also eye-opening at the same time. What she shared is very true to how teens feel.

This month all across the nation is focusing on the awareness of suicide. It is not a topic that people like to discuss. It has in many years been a very taboo type of issue and the less talked about the less to deal with.

However, because of that attitude, many more teens and young adults are taking their lives like never before. To be honest, many parents don’t even know that their teen is struggling with depression or suicidal issues. Teens often will hide how they truly feel for many different reasons and parents become either in denial of what is happening around them or they truly don’t see the signs that are a part of this problem.

Teens that have friends who have taken their lives are also susceptible to suicide. Between the loss of a friend to their own frailty of life, their thoughts are heightened to another level of how they will begin to cope with what lies ahead. If they are already experiencing depression or any other mental illness, this will only precipitate those emotions and actions of suicide. Distorted thoughts and unrealistic ideation only adds to this dilemma when many times through movies suicide is glorified or even beautiful up to the very end. Continue reading

A Teen’s Life Story of Depression, Anxiety and Self-Harm

Telling her own personal story as a teen and what her mom was faced with, Adria shares what it was like being faced with the fact that her depression and anxiety as well as self-harm was leading her to a road of destruction.  Her mom was left with little alternatives other than to put Adria into a hospital to get help.   Adria shares what those moments were like.  Calling out to God did something she hadn’t expected which turned her life around.  As a parent, I could identify with everything Adria shared having the fact that my own daughter went through an identical situation.  We as parents can learn a lot from our teens and their emotional state and where their thoughts are taking them.  I applaud Adria for exposing something very personal in her life so that she could help others.  My prayer is that her life will be a beacon of hope for others that God does hear us when we call out to Him.

Where is Help if Your Child Struggles Like Robin Williams Did?

Great information to help your teen who is in crisis.

Hope For Hurting Parents

hope12 Since Robin Williams’ tragic death, there has been volumes written and discussed about addiction, recovery, depression and suicide in the media. Depression. Substance Abuse. Suicide. Each strikes fear and trembling in every parent’s heart.

“O God, please don’t let any of these ever happen to my child”, we say to ourselves. We hope and pray none of these will touch our lives. Most of us are unprepared and uninformed. Unless your family or personal background has these elements in it, you’re probably like me – clueless.

If you’re a parent who’s troubled by your son or daughter’s behaviors,

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Why Setting Aladdin Free is Wrong

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I have been really shocked and appalled at the media and Hollywood for making statements such as “Aladdin, you are now free!” after the death of Robin Williams.

This statement sends a very wrong message to our struggling teens who are in crisis.  When in despair, such wording as this gives them permission to kill themselves in order to be set free.  Instead, those accountable for this message should have responded with help support lines for those in crisis.  But unfortunately they did not do the responsible thing.

If we don’t want our children and teens to follow in Robin’s footsteps then we need to take a step up and get them the help they need.  If we can offer AA buddies for accountability and encouragement and help, we should also be able to provide that same kind of support for our teens.  Not a pass that says you can kill yourself and everyone is okay with it. Continue reading