How Teens are Practicing for Divorce

The points in this blog are right on! I am already seeing a major turn in our teenagers in how they deal with relationships and it is not good. Thank you BackwardParentingByBrita for sharing your heart. Fellow bloggers, take a read and let me know your thoughts on this topic.

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No matter your beliefs or background, I think we can all agree that the divorce rate in America is high.

Fact: 40%-50% of marriages will end in divorce.

Another fact? Divorce hurts kids.

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Just so nobody thinks I’m railing on something I know nothing about, I am a product of divorce, and I am married (for the second time) to a man who was married and divorced prior, and who brought two children as part of our own marriage pact (point is, I have some experience. Another point, divorce happens, even to the best of us.). I can safely say that we (him and I) parented “his” and “our” kids as equally as possible, with the same rules, the same discipline and the same love. I naively thought “equal” would counter the other messiness of shared holidays, weekend time at bio-mom’s, different rules at different houses, the questions of why…

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Letter to His Divorced Parents

Divorce brings more emotional damage than the loss of a parent through death.  Parents think that if they give enough love to their child or teen, that it will solve any or all future problems.  False.  Please view this video for a reality check.  What this young boy shares is what most teens feel.

At Age 6, Suicide Was His Only Option

At Age 5, Suicide Was His Only Option

On June 3rd of 2013, an angry little 6 yr. old boy from Idaho took off his belt, tied it around the handle of the freezer and hung himself. This was not his first attempt at suicide. Sad to say, this time it was his last because he succeeded. Although he might not have understood the ramifications of his act, he was deliberate in his actions.

The history of this little boy showed major anger issues stemming from the divorce of his parents. Although it is a rare occurrence in children this young, what are not so rare are the many pre-teens and teens that are in similar cases of crisis today. Continue reading

Looking for Daddy

Looking For Daddy - Anchor Of Promise

He walked into my office and posed a question to me.  “What is more important?  Do I sacrifice my time with my kids so that I can have love in my life or should I sacrifice having a girlfriend/wife to love and give all my time to my kids?”

I was first of all surprised at his candor in this question since I have only known him for a little over a month.  But I could tell he was really struggling with this question.  He then pulled out a picture of his 5 year-old little girl (one of 7 children I might add) and played the audio of her desperate plea for daddy to not go away and instead stay with her.  She started to cry and said, “I miss you daddy, please don’t go daddy, I love you daddy!”  It was heartbreaking.

We got more involved in the question and about his little girl and it was obvious that he loved his little girl, but he was struggling in this decision even more because his girlfriend from another relationship wanted him in her life.  That would require him to move farther away from his little girl, therefore seeing less of her. Continue reading