10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 2

Find a Counselor – Kids hate counselors. Doesn’t matter their age whether they are a teen to a young adult, they all feel the same way. Why? First and foremost, the fact that the parents have picked them out is part of the reason.  They didn’t have a whole lot of say in the matter or get to be a part of the decision making as to “who” they would be spilling their guts to.  So…. it is important that they play an integral part in who their next counselor will be.  The best route to go is to pick 2 – 3 counselors, meet with them, then ask your child to whom they had a connection with (which makes counseling all the easier for everyone involved), and then make a choice from there.  P.S. – the child HAS to pick one of them.  They cannot opt for no one. 

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Being Thankful With a Child in Crisis

A time of thanksgiving and reflection is once again upon us. However, this year it comes with many challenges. Not only are we dealing with a national pandemic, but there is the added unresolved election, unemployment, and the school system in shambles.

If that weren’t the tip of the iceberg, you have a teen or young adult in crisis as well. How in the world can we lift up our heads during this holiday season and find the words to be thankful?

My youngest is still broken. She is still filled with hurt and pain and struggles every day with some serious issues. There are days that I wonder and ask God, “When will you heal her, when will I not have to worry anymore, when can I finally live a normal life?”

Well, here’s the kicker. Life will never be normal. Every day, I am thankful that she made it through another day. I am thankful that despite the many hardships and disappointments in life, I am thankful that my faith is not what it used to be – it is better!

For eight months I was out of work because of the covid. But praise God, even though it was difficult, I was able to spend time with my daughter and dive into her world a little more to try to understand the tremendous burdens she carries and what it will take for her get better.

I became more thankful FOR her problems because she educated me on how she lives every day in her mind. I would take what I learned and applied it to my knowledge bank so that I could guide and encourage her in a new way. I was and still am thankful for how God opened doors and brought individuals into our lives that specifically work in the areas of my daughter’s disabilities and struggles. God is good.

God never changes. Our circumstances change, our lives change, and God remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. So until now and Thanksgiving Day, find at lease one thing to be thankful for in your life and include your child into that time of Thanksgiving. I promise, your spirit will be filled with praise, thankfulness, and peace in the midst of any storm you are faced with. Thank you God for your goodness!

A New Year’s Prayer for the Hurting Parent

A New Year's Prayer for the Hurting Parent - Anchor Of Promise

 

Dear God,

May this New Year of 2020 be the beginning of healing broken hearts in my family.  As I ask in prayer for restoration of my troubled child as well as for my own spirit, may we receive above and beyond rest and peace during our journey despite any chaos that comes our way. 

As we seek Your guidance and wisdom, may Your Word penetrate our soul as well as our child who is wayward.  As our child seeks the things of the world to heal their own heart, may You redirect them back to You and show them Your love, comfort, and freedom through Christ Jesus.  In Him only, they will find release from their pain and hurt as well as be delivered from the chains that bind them.  

When we search for answers through You, let the doors of opportunity and blessings be bestowed on our family.  For You are our true answer for all of our needs. There is nothing outside of your realm or power that cannot meet us where we are at in this moment of time. 

Let 2020 be the year in which our lives are changed, renewed, restored, and set free.  Let us as parents be encouraged with a renewed hope, faith, strength, and victory as we travel the road of parenting a child in crisis.  Amen!  

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

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Christmas, the Most Beautiful and Painful Time of the Year

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You love Christmas.  You sing and reminisce through the songs, enjoy the smell of baked goodies in the oven and having a hot drink. You are snuggled in your comfy chair, relaxed for the movie of White Christmas.  You look over at the decorated Christmas tree and presents all prepared under the tree. Time to close your eyes and giggle over the funny stories and memories of Christmas past. Nope, there are no broken family members in your household.  

The problem is, it’s all in your head.   Continue reading