As we all know, Father’s Day is Sunday. Social media is flooded with fathers posting fun-filled happy memories of the past and present with their sons and daughters. However, not all fathers can rejoice and be glad. There are many who are hurting, saddened, worried, and worn down by their child’s choices and dangerous behaviors and lifestyles. How does one get through it?
I could easily pass on a remedy of prayer, Bible reading, support groups, etc… Unfortunately, there are situations in which we try all of those things and yet our child goes deeper into turmoil and fears of death ponder our mind.
There are fathers who have addicted children on heroin and other strong drugs. There are fathers whose children are incarcerated. There are fathers who don’t know where their child is and there are those who have a child battling mental illness with no hope on the horizon.
Have you ever felt numb and dead inside? Maybe it was an incident that left you shocked, bewildered, and speechless. Quite possibly, a situation arose with your teen or young adult that shattered your dreams for them. Perhaps your child requires so much of your energy, thinking, and emotions, you are left exhausted with nothing more to give. Maybe they caused you pain and your response was to just shutdown.
I have been there. Sometimes, I even visit there from time to time. I often wonder to myself why I was left with so many burdens to carry because of my child in crisis. From a teen to a young adult now, some of those crises enlarged or new ones evolved. Some of those struggles were self-inflicted while others were not.
Imagine yourself on the sea, running into a fog so thick, even with your hand in front of you, it is not in view. How can you guide yourself across the ocean and make it to your final destination?
Fear runs into your veins as you navigate the waters. Questions go through your mind. What could be in front of me that I cannot visually see? Do I turn left, right, or keep straight? Do I take in the sails to slow down or redirect and turn around? Do I drop the anchor to stay still and wait for the fog to pass?
As the world comes to a pause to celebrate Christ’s death and resurrection, I am reminded of how much He cares for each and every one of us, and especially so, for our broken and wayward children.
All around us has become filled with fear, hopelessness, anger, and depression. People of many ages and families struggling to get through the days and nights. Every morning there is another highlight of something that is discouraging or news that creates more despair.
The Heavenly Father knew our world would be troubled. He knew that we needed to be saved from our own sin and death. He knew a Savior was needed to give us life.
What hope would there be if Christ did not give His life as an offering so that we could live? What mercy would we have had if Christ changed His mind and walked away from death? Today we live in a hurting and dying world where everyone is searching for answers. The good news is that our Savior has come, and IS our ANSWER!
Parents, God gave us His Son to not only give us eternal life, but to set our children free from their life of pain, waywardness, hurt, and brokenness. God already knew the plan before it was set forth. Part of His plan was to set captives free through Jesus. Those captives are our sons and daughters who are struggling with addictions, self-injury, mental illness, disorders, a life of crime, sexual identity issues, and more.
Jesus’ blood on the cross was more than just forgiving and cleansing us from our sin. His blood was a healing lifeline for us and our children. Thank you Father, for your compassion on us!
So as you look upon your teen and young adult this day, remember, Jesus already bore his life on the cross for your child and one day, they will encounter freedom in Him like nothing they have ever experienced before. Keep praying parent. Our HOPE has risen! Jesus Christ our Lord!
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16