Peace Among Chaos

The New Year has begun and chaos is happening across our nation on top of chaos in a broken family’s home. Take heart my dear parent. God is STILL in control. Nothing is without His knowledge. He still reigns! He is sovereign! He is powerful! He has a plan, even for our family. He has NOT forsaken our nation and He has NOT forsaken our family. Take courage, be brave, hold on to your faith in Christ Jesus, the Healer of all hearts and giver of our salvation. Keep your eyes on the prize – Heaven bound. God will restore your family, in His time, and providence. Thank you Lord for Your faithfulness to us, especially during these critical times.

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10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 2

Find a Counselor – Kids hate counselors. Doesn’t matter their age whether they are a teen to a young adult, they all feel the same way. Why? First and foremost, the fact that the parents have picked them out is part of the reason.  They didn’t have a whole lot of say in the matter or get to be a part of the decision making as to “who” they would be spilling their guts to.  So…. it is important that they play an integral part in who their next counselor will be.  The best route to go is to pick 2 – 3 counselors, meet with them, then ask your child to whom they had a connection with (which makes counseling all the easier for everyone involved), and then make a choice from there.  P.S. – the child HAS to pick one of them.  They cannot opt for no one. 

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10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 1

Find Help!  Resources are aplenty nowadays for hurting parents struggling with a child in crisis (whether it is a teen or young adult). However, the amount of those resources are overwhelming.  Best way to get through it – ask friends and family to help you in your research.  Give them the criteria of what you are looking for, and have them print out the details.  E.g. – if you have a child with an eating disorder – find all Christian-based books. Programs, websites, blogs, FB support groups, and organizations that give support and one on one guidance.  Write down the ten ideal things that you are looking for and have your family and friends decipher through the information and highlight it.  This will save valuable time as well as frustration.

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A Season of Hope

Jesus, the light of the world, the light of HOPE! As I scrolled through the many pictures of my friends who posted beautiful family photos, I couldn’t help wanting the same thing. But you see, my family is different. We have broken children who are hurting, struggling, and we as parents are hurting for them. Here is the hope – Jesus provides the answer and He has a healing power that will one day make them whole. While we wait, He sends peace to our weary hearts and even joy in between to give us the strength to keep going, keep trusting, and building our faith too. So rejoice! He knows your heart and your requests. Keep praying and focus your eyes on Jesus!

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Being Thankful With a Child in Crisis

A time of thanksgiving and reflection is once again upon us. However, this year it comes with many challenges. Not only are we dealing with a national pandemic, but there is the added unresolved election, unemployment, and the school system in shambles.

If that weren’t the tip of the iceberg, you have a teen or young adult in crisis as well. How in the world can we lift up our heads during this holiday season and find the words to be thankful?

My youngest is still broken. She is still filled with hurt and pain and struggles every day with some serious issues. There are days that I wonder and ask God, “When will you heal her, when will I not have to worry anymore, when can I finally live a normal life?”

Well, here’s the kicker. Life will never be normal. Every day, I am thankful that she made it through another day. I am thankful that despite the many hardships and disappointments in life, I am thankful that my faith is not what it used to be – it is better!

For eight months I was out of work because of the covid. But praise God, even though it was difficult, I was able to spend time with my daughter and dive into her world a little more to try to understand the tremendous burdens she carries and what it will take for her get better.

I became more thankful FOR her problems because she educated me on how she lives every day in her mind. I would take what I learned and applied it to my knowledge bank so that I could guide and encourage her in a new way. I was and still am thankful for how God opened doors and brought individuals into our lives that specifically work in the areas of my daughter’s disabilities and struggles. God is good.

God never changes. Our circumstances change, our lives change, and God remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. So until now and Thanksgiving Day, find at lease one thing to be thankful for in your life and include your child into that time of Thanksgiving. I promise, your spirit will be filled with praise, thankfulness, and peace in the midst of any storm you are faced with. Thank you God for your goodness!