When They Just Won’t Listen

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One of the biggest frustrations parents have is when their teen/young adult child is unwilling to listen to sound wisdom.  Even more frustrating is when your child is in crisis and thinks that their wisdom is more sound than yours. 

Teens and young adults are wrapped up in their emotions, feelings, and urgency of the circumstances that surround them.  This clouds the consequences of their choices and actions.   Continue reading

I Want My Life Back!

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As I was decorating for the fall, I was reminded of the countless times in the past I was consumed by the many crises of my teen. Those crises preoccupied my life to the point that finding joy in a new season or celebrating a holiday became non-existent.  

Having a teen or young adult in crisis dominates your life physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  You find yourself not living your life anymore but that of your child.  Everything is about them.  Literally!  

I had no time to clean my house.  I had no availability to see friends.  I craved to be alone and couldn’t.  I spent all my time going to a counselor and doctor appts., searching the web or reading for answers to serious issues. I was too tired to think about cooking or to eat a regular meal.  My wash was piled up and dishes constantly left in the sink.  

When I went to work, my mind was consumed even more because I wasn’t home to see what was going on.  When I went to church, I wanted to hide from others so that I wasn’t twenty-questioned about our family. As time went on, it got to a period to which I wanted to run away or worse yet, end my life.  Obviously I didn’t since I am writing this post. Continue reading

The Power of God that Leads to Repentance

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As parents of prodigals (teens and young adults), we often wonder when things get bad, if God is truly powerful to save our children.  We look at their issues and think to ourselves that they are just extraordinarily too big for us to handle or control.  We also begin to doubt in our belief that there is hope for our children.  

As I had been reading the news and viewing pictures of the hurricanes, one picture got my attention.  Once surrounded by ocean water, the docks in Florida were now instead, surrounded by dry sand.  

Looking back to the earlier days of science in the elementary, middle, and high school, weather predictions and phenomenons were only talked about and rarely seen. In fact, very few, including meteorologists, would have predicted or seen these special effects caused by these weather storms.  

Such as the case with Hurricane Irma that was so strong it swept away the ocean from the shoreline.  People were left scratching their heads in shock.  The only question on their mind was, “Where did the water go?”  

As I was reading Exodus 14:21, I came across a verse that gave the answer –  

Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD swept the sea back by a strong east wind all night and turned the sea into dry land, so the waters were divided.

Then in verse 27,

So Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and the sea returned to its normal state at daybreak, while the Egyptians were fleeing right into it; then the LORD overthrew the Egyptians in the midst of the sea.

Reading these verses reminded me that God is in control.  He also can allow calamity in order to bring about repentance and peace,  even through a storm. Remember, God has the power to breathe life into us as well as remove it.  Yet, His grace and mercy continues to pursue us in a manner that says how much He desires to love us and have a relationship with us.  He has those same thoughts and love toward our children too. 

The rescue of the Israelites from their enemies is a prime example.  God also has the same power to rescue our children from their destructive behaviors and lifestyles that seek to destroy them.  

Furthermore, the hurricanes of today can also awaken our children to question who will they look to for help and hope in their time of trouble.  This leads to repentance and change.  This is something that we cannot do for them. Only God can show them the answers by allowing circumstances to present themselves to our child.  All we need to do is pray for our teen and young adult.  God can do the rest.  

So the next time you visit the beach and walk along the beautiful sands of the shoreline, remind yourself that our Almighty God is in control and will guide your child back home.  

 

Side Note:  Please continue to pray for the states and islands who have been hit with the many hurricanes in the past month.  If you are looking to donate, please check out  Convoy of Hope – a Humanitarian Organization that helps those in need – most specifically those affected by the recent storms.   

 

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Surviving the Storms of Crisis

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The aftermath of Hurricane Harvey was a devastating blow to the state of Texas.  Although the warnings were there ahead of time, what couldn’t be predicted was the amount of destruction it would cause.

The families in Texas feel lost, depressed, discouraged, and unsure of the future.  For some, it left catastrophic effects and major loss of their property, animals, and even loved ones.

Around the corner now, Hurricane Irma is bearing down in the ocean leading another path to its target, although unknown at the moment.

To control a hurricane is like trying to control an earthquake.  The pre-existing facts are there, but it is too big to stop it.

We can often see the impending crisis with our teen similar to the radar of a hurricane.  To control or stop it is another matter.  We see the signs for example, in our drug addicted child or self-harming teen, but to bring a halt to their destructive behavior is not something we as parents can physically control.  Before we know it, the crisis is beyond our imagination of what we knew to be true. Continue reading

It’s a Scary World For Our Teens, and Us Too

 

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Today, we are seeing a rise in violence and harm towards our children, pre-teens and teens.  Whether it is gun violence, physical/sexual assault, or self-inflicted harm, the younger generation is broken and hurting like never before.  

In our country, there is an increased devaluation of human life.  The sex-trade and human trafficking has crossed borders not only into our country but also in every state.  Immoral and worldly propaganda has filled their minds that right is wrong and wrong is right. Protecting our children has become a major priority among parents.  A teen in crisis raises that bar of protection because they are more vulnerable due to their shaky foundation.  

With so much uncertainty in this volatile world, our teens are also fearful.  We may believe their outrageous and risky behavior is coming from a tough interior, but this is not true.  They feel hopeless.  They think they are worthless. Their future seems bleak to them.  They feel alone.  In their minds, they don’t believe anyone loves them or cares about them.  They too, also see the world changing with not much to look forward to. Continue reading