The moment you hear it you are stunned. The news of your well rounded, smart, career-minded child has just gone through their entire savings spent on hard drugs. How can this be? This was the last thing you could have ever thought would happen with your child. But it just did.
Each week we hear of more staggering news of families with teens and young adults faced with a drug crisis. Today’s drug choice – cocaine, alcohol, club drugs, fentanyl, heroin, inhalants, opioids, and more. I’ve seen it up close and too personal.
We often hear of the story of the Prodigal son who rebelled and left his father to seek out his own independence with drinking, sex, gambling, and living the high life.
Today, parents have prodigals who live in the home too. Take the case of one mom whose young adult son refuses to acknowledge his parent in the same room. He spends hours on his phone or gaming console. He exerts his independence through backtalking and disrespect of his mom and dad. He leaves the house and doesn’t tell anyone where he is going. He comes back late and leaves telltale signs that he was out partying and most likely having sex. The last thing he wants to hear is about God.
Then there is the daughter who is shut down emotionally and cuts her family out of her life. She says nothing at the dinner table other than she is an atheist and doesn’t need to pray for her food, hides in her room all day, and announces that she can’t be around others in her family because they are just too toxic for her.
Prodigals. You love them and you can’t stand their attitude at the same time. You wonder, “Where did I go wrong? My parenting wasn’t that horrible. Why are they being so ungrateful and rebellious?” Continue reading →
Have you ever thought for a random second or two that there is something really wrong with your child? Did a horrendous thought pop in your head about your child doing something that is beyond your scope to imagine? Maybe it was a word spoken, an action taken, a response you were not expecting.
Maybe your son or daughter made a comment about how much they hated the world and wanted to rid them. Maybe it was a slammed door that reverberated throughout the house by a trigger that set them off in anger and violence. How about the moment in which you see markings on your child from self-harm or written words on their body that made you wonder what they have gotten themselves into now. Continue reading →
During my years of being a parent of a teen and young adult in crisis, I have delved many times into the world of great mourning.
Mourning can mean many different things to parents. It can be an extreme loss such as the death of a child through addiction. It could be through the painful emotional death of a child who rejected their own gender to be another. Maybe it is the aching of seeing your deeply depressed and suicidal child talk only of death and not caring about anyone or anything else this life has to offer. Continue reading →
When a police officer was asked how many robberies he had responded to since the Coronavirus impacted our country, the answer was quite revealing.
He only had to say a few words – “No robberies, family violence is what we are dealing with now.” Police stations across the country are seeing an increase of double digits in violence within the home. Although most of them are domestic violence between husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc…, we cannot leave out the violence that transpires between a parent and child.
The COVID-19 crisis has now developed into a family crisis. Even as Christians, we are not immune to violence and abuse in the home when you are dealing with a hurting and broken teen/young adult. Either we snap as a parent or our child does. Continue reading →