Is KIK Safe for Your Teen?

Is KIK Safe For Your Teen - Anchor Of Promise

The KIK App has now claimed another child’s life. In this situation, it was through the luring of a young, vulnerable and hurting teen who was looking for friendship and a source of support because of bullying in school.

Kik came on the scene about five years ago and today there are millions of app users with 20,000 added each day. It is a text messaging system that has become more like the sexting system. Pedophiles have said, “It is well known in our industry.”

Today, many young pre-teens and teens use social sites (such as Kik, Lline, Snapchat, etc…) to deal with the pain and struggle they are going through. In some cases, those same social sites are the cause of their crisis. In one such case, a young girl, Sydney- age 14, committed suicide because of what she was involved with through the app.

Recently, Nicole Lovell, age 13, used the app KIK when she had contact with an older man who talked her into climbing out her window to meet him. It wasn’t long after in which she was killed. This wasn’t the first time a young child was being lured away from their home. It has happened countless times using not just Kik but other social apps as well.

The FBI became involved and found that the KIK social app was the prime lead in the case for exposing the killer of Nicole Lovell.

To this day, many parents still do not know about KIK and how easily it is for predators to use it to lure your child to harm. Think of it this way. You can sign up with the app with a fake name or fake age. That in itself is the perfect opportunity for the predator to be safe from being caught.

Although the Kik Messenger was initially an adult app, it is becoming very popular with children as young as ten to older teen age.

Police have seen an increase of incidents of children/teens being sent porn by predators on this app. It is also the number one problem app that encourages predator behavior. There are other issues such as sexting, blackmail, threats of self or towards others, pressure to take nude pics of self and forward.

Kik Messenger hosts within its app over 400 mini apps. They range from games, hook ups and even anonymous confessions. Because they haven’t been proven to be safe, they could also contain porn.

Just like many other apps, there is no age range to control. Therefore, no matter how you try to put any filters or controls on this app, it will not block or work. The only way to control it is to delete it.

Because it is not regulated or screened appropriately, many kids are being sent porn before they can block the images or be caught in a pedophile or predator predicament.

There are many more problematic issues within this app and sadly that leaves many more children and teens prone to predators, porn, and even death, such as the case of Nicole from Virginia.

So what can you do as a parent –
1. Talk to your teen about the dangers of this app and share Nicole and Sydney’s story. Let us not forget these young girls who lost their lives. May their lives speak to save others.
2. Educate yourself. Eventually teens will move onto the next big social site. You need to know everything about them.
3. Delete these apps. But if you find that some are okay by your standards, it is still important to set the privacy settings. Instagram and other social platforms (Kik has no parental controls/privacy settings) share your name. pics, and personalization for anyone to see or steal. Information has been easily obtained through Instagram and other social sites by strangers so you need to check what settings are available in each app.
4. You should create all passwords and do phone checks for apps. Your child needs to understand the dangerous position they could easily expose themselves to. You are also the main one who pays for the phone. Therefore, it is your duty as a parent to step in and do whatever is necessary to make sure that your child remains protected.
5. Help your children/teen understand that when they send sexting messages or images, they also would be under the law which could cause a fine or time in jail and be on record as a pedophile. It is a serious issue and crime. If you suspect that your child is already speaking to someone older, take the phone away and get the police involved. Then call a counselor. Your child/teen and even family may need one.
6. Pray for God to give you wisdom, discernment and protection over your child/teen. They are a gift and we should see that they are well taken are of.

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Sexting and Nude Photos – Be prepared! Your Teen May Be Involved

Sexting and Nude Photos – Be prepared! Your Teen May Be Involved - Anchor of Promise

If you haven’t heard by now, a Colorado High School is on lock down regarding sexting images of inappropriate nature which were passed throughout the school like wildfire via ghost apps (apps disguised as normal apps). The most disturbing part is that more than a few were caught. In fact, they are stating it might be at least a hundred students involved. It is now a criminal investigation, charging students with possessing and distributing child pornography

The other concern for parents is the increasing number of teens who use code to send private messages to other teens about sex. Parents are shocked at what they are finding on their teen’s phone. To make matters worse, it leaves the door open for pedophiles and porn pimps to gather this private information that could place a teen in very serious danger.

If you think this is happening only in broken homes, think again. It is happening among families of all faiths and economic status. This issue is very serious as it has been acknowledged that this form of crime is skyrocketing, not just with teens but pre-teens as well. Continue reading

Twelve Year Olds – Sex Earlier and Rougher

Twelve Year Olds - Sex Earlier and Rougher - Anchor of Promise

I came across this article and sadly what I read is very true.  Having seen and heard this personally, 12 years is most likely the average range for exposure. But I believe that, even as young as 9-10 years old, girls are being peer pressured to the point that they fall into the traps of low self-esteem, body issues, porn, eating disorders and more.

If we as parents do not actively get involved in our daughter’s lives, they will lead a life of chaos, crisis and disaster.  Parents cannot sit idly by and think that their daughter has not been exposed to this pressure.

Grace (not her real name) started at the age of 9 when a boy made fun of her legs because she did not shave them.  One comment.  One opinion.  It rocked that little girl’s world and altered her life forever.

It could be the very essence of why your young teen is struggling with the issues that they have.  Take the time to read this so that you can be informed and quickly intervene to rescue your pre-teen from more harm.

12 Year Olds – Sex Rougher and Earlier





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Children Producing Porn

Children Producing Porn - Anchor Of Promise

My heart is broken.  I received information in my email this morning and would encourage you to pray, to pray for our children.  There are many parents out there who do not know that their children are producing porn, right from within their own home.

I would encourage you to read the whole article in its entirety to get the full scope of what is happening.  I knew that teenagers usage of sexting was prevalent, but never thought it would go this far.   Please share with your friends.  You just don’t know what home these youth are doing these activities in.  Talk to your children.  Ask LOTS of questions.  And pray!






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50 Shades – What It Teaches to Young Teens

50 Shades - What It Teaches Young Teens - Anchor Of Promise

In the news of late is the huge publicity of the movie “50 Shades” which centers on the storyline of the controversial book. The movie, due to its graphic story plot and scenes, easily merits an “NC17” but was slated for an “R” rating.

However, what is more concerning about this movie is the after-affect that it will have among the young of both sexes.

Sadly, many teens and young adults get their sex education from porn. This movie is just another perspective but normalizing and romanticizing abuse in a bigger way – through the theater.

If we do not talk to our teens, as difficult as it may be to parents, then expect more of the 50 Shades type of movie to not only to continue that education them but further twist and distort the truth about real love.

If we do not use teachable moments with our pre-teens/teenagers about how porn and stories like this can destroy marriages and families, it will lead down the path of destructive and abusive relationships.

So keeping that in mind, I decided to write my own “50 Shades – What It Teaches Young Teens”. Continue reading