A Teen’s Life Story of Depression, Anxiety and Self-Harm

Telling her own personal story as a teen and what her mom was faced with, Adria shares what it was like being faced with the fact that her depression and anxiety as well as self-harm was leading her to a road of destruction.  Her mom was left with little alternatives other than to put Adria into a hospital to get help.   Adria shares what those moments were like.  Calling out to God did something she hadn’t expected which turned her life around.  As a parent, I could identify with everything Adria shared having the fact that my own daughter went through an identical situation.  We as parents can learn a lot from our teens and their emotional state and where their thoughts are taking them.  I applaud Adria for exposing something very personal in her life so that she could help others.  My prayer is that her life will be a beacon of hope for others that God does hear us when we call out to Him.

Why are there more girls self-harming than boys?

If you are parent who has a child that self-harms, this post can give you a glimpse into the world of cutting and help you understand this issue in a deeper way. For my daughter, her healing came through prayer, ways to express herself that doesn’t influence self-harm and counseling.

When looking into self-harm, what stuck with me most was that the number of girls self-harming is significantly higher than the number of boys.  It really got me thinking and all I wanted to understand was why?  Does it have something to do with a female’s inability to deal with stress, or their desire to be in control, or perhaps a lack of self-esteem?

A comment on my previous self-harm post, regarding the need to be in control, reads: “Teenage girls are constantly being told what they need to be – standards that few can live up to. I believe that more girls turn to harming themselves and controlling what they eat because they can control nothing else. In male-dominated society, girls have control over almost nothing.”

This is an interesting way of looking at it, especially when we are living in a time that is media-obsessed.  Girls feel like…

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Is Cutting Becoming the New Anorexia of Today?

Is Cutting Becoming the New Anorexia of Today? - Anchor Of Promise


Cutting.  It is one of the fastest  growing self-harm issues of today among teens.  Many parents assume that it only happens among girls which is true to an extent, but as you look at the alarming statistics, boys also self-harm and are not too far behind.

Studies show that cutting can start as young as 7 but the average start is between the ages of 10-16.  When high school hits, girls are three times higher.  Cutting has been around for half a century or longer but it is now becoming more prevalent in our society.

So why do they cut? Each teen has different reasons for their cutting.  For some it is stress at school or at home.  It could come from bullying or personal family problems.  It can be from abandonment or psychological sufferings that they are tormented with such as abuse, incest, rape, body issues, rejection and more.  Any of these reasons can make them susceptible to self-harm but in the end, it is a form of control and coping skill. Continue reading