As a parent who not only has seen other parents with kids and addictions, I too, saw the issues first hand within my own home. Although these addictions were not to drugs or alcohol, they were still addictive behavior that had control over our daughter’s lives.
For many years I thought that if only I took more control of the situation, my kids wouldn’t be in those situations. So I fought harder to stop the addictive behavior. However, the more control I used, the more my kids were getting out of control. What was I doing wrong?
As much as we parents want to stop the addictive behavior, we can also become the empowerment of that behavior. You don’t necessarily have to have control over that specific addiction, but you can still try to control in other ways which is just as harmful.
So you may ask, “What kind of control are we talking about?” What if your teen abuses alcohol? You know for a fact that it isn’t coming from your home because you don’t provide alcohol. But let’s just say instead, you cut off all of their friends, you make them come home immediately after school, you force them to go to grandma’s house thinking they need to be around more family, or you show them tons of videos of what happens to those who drink. Continue reading
Showing eleven and twelve year-old’s how to use a sex toy is educational? Although this might have been an isolated case in Florida, what is happening all across America are the cases of porn being allowed for your kids to read. Since the implementation of the Common Core Standards, more and more parents as well as teachers are realizing the harm that is being introduced in the classroom through a very exploitative way.
Although you don’t hear cases in which a sex-ed teacher lays on top of her desk and gives a demonstration of a sex toy’s use (which happened recently in one Florida classroom), what is seducing your pre-teen and early teens are the required porn books that are mandated for your child to read. Continue reading
I came across this book at a writer’s conference and am encouraging parents who have an adult or teen struggling with addiction to please consider purchasing. Anita Estes tells her true story and journey through a parent’s view of her adult child’s addiction. It is in the form of a journal which is packed with prayers, advice and insights she has learned along the way.
Letters to God will help you understand the signs and personality of the addicted, access spiritual and practical tools, and give you hope and encouragement in your prayer life. For an overview, click on this link. Goodreads review of Letters to God on a Prodigal Son
In an ever growing world of cybermania, teens are becoming more and more updated with the latest craze or addiction. I recently came across several articles that blew my mind away as to how deviant, distorted, and crazy our world has become by only looking at the sites and trends that our teens are now into.
Most recently, my daughter was asked to join a site called KIK. Once you register, you can begin posting pics and doing chats. She didn’t know much about the site so she went along with it because her friend begged her to spend more chat time with her. She wasn’t even on a full 15 minutes and she came across quite a few half nude pictures of other teens posting themselves for all to see. She was shocked. But there is more. You can send private messages that your parents can’t see as well as sexting. In fact, your child could be corresponding with a predator and not even know it. And worse, the parent or the teen would not be able to identify who it is on the other end.
The other day we were talking about this situation and I began to ask my daughter if she knew any of the sites or trends on my list that would be a major concern for a lot of parents. She was aware of a few, but others she had never heard of. She knows how to get around on the computer and her cell but nowadays new sites and trends are popping up all the time and it is hard to keep up. It was only about 6 months ago that I had mentioned on one of my other posts about a few of these sites and lo and behold, a bunch more cropped up that I had never heard of. Continue reading
Did you know that the average age for a child to view porn for the first time is age 11? We use to believe it was only targeted for the male adults. Not anymore.
Some teens accidentally get exposed to it. For example, when I got my daughter her first phone which was an android phone, I was shocked to find how many porn apps the phone provider adds onto the phone. Yes, they give you kids games, reading options, internet use, cool tools and more, but you never expect to actually see a visual app that has half-naked couples fondling each other or a half-dressed woman in a sexual pose right there for your teen to click on. I tried to get rid of them so that she wouldn’t be exposed to them but some were too difficult to disable. Continue reading