Father’s Day Letter From a Hurting Teen

Father's Day Letter From a Hurting Teen - Anchor Of Promise

 

Keep praying Dads!  Your teen or young adult will one day come back and thank you too for never giving up on them.  This dad knows it.  There is HOPE!  Keep your faith in God as you continue to lift up your child to Him.  And thank you to this Dad for sharing this letter with Anchor Of Promise.  Happy Father’s Day!

The Silent Epidemic in Our Teens

The Silent Epidemic in Our Teens - Anchor Of Promise

There is a silent epidemic happening in our country of young teens, most specifically male youths.  I call it silent because you don’t always see it. It is often hidden from others. In fact, it hides behind a facade that everything is okay, when in reality, something is brewing.

Here are some prime examples of this silent epidemic.

17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis killed 10 people in Santa Fe High School – he was supposedly bullied and rejected by a girl that he liked.  Noted as being quiet and to himself. 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/18/us/dimitrios-pagourtzis-gunman-texas-shooting.html

Nikolas Cruz slaughtered at least 17 students at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas HS – a loner, supposedly had impulse issues, was bullied, had major losses in his life with the death of his parents.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/02/15/florida-shooting-what-we-know-attack-parkland-high-school/340110002/

A 15-year-old teen with the help of two friends, strangled and stabbed his mother to death in Maine because they moved.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/04/24/out-control-teen-son-and-friends-strangled-stabbed-mom-over-move-to-maine-cops-say.html

16 year-old beats friend to death with baseball bat over jealousy of a girl he liked.

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/florida-16-old-allegedly-beats-friend-death-baseball-153404802–abc-news-topstories.html   

This silent epidemic is called Anger.  It’s an emotion that is in each and every one of us.  This includes growth spurting hormonal teenagers. Most teens express their anger through yelling, slamming doors, running off, or finding a place to be alone for hours.  Those types of responses are expected. However, for some teens, their anger differs. Their anger lingers and builds quietly, layer upon layer, with no filters or boundaries in place.   It lays dormant inside until an event triggers a volcanic eruption of violence that knows no limits. Continue reading

Seasons of Change

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We have said goodbye to winter and hello to spring.  With that, it has also brought seasons of change in my personal life as well.  

During one of those seasons, I broke my toe, hurt a rib, and was congratulated for getting the flu.  All at the same time! No fun.

If that weren’t enough, our house went up for sale.  Can you imagine a hobbling sick woman trying to clean her house for visitors, coughing with an “ouch” at the end of each move? Continue reading

I Want My Life Back!

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As I was decorating for the fall, I was reminded of the countless times in the past I was consumed by the many crises of my teen. Those crises preoccupied my life to the point that finding joy in a new season or celebrating a holiday became non-existent.  

Having a teen or young adult in crisis dominates your life physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  You find yourself not living your life anymore but that of your child.  Everything is about them.  Literally!  

I had no time to clean my house.  I had no availability to see friends.  I craved to be alone and couldn’t.  I spent all my time going to a counselor and doctor appts., searching the web or reading for answers to serious issues. I was too tired to think about cooking or to eat a regular meal.  My wash was piled up and dishes constantly left in the sink.  

When I went to work, my mind was consumed even more because I wasn’t home to see what was going on.  When I went to church, I wanted to hide from others so that I wasn’t twenty-questioned about our family. As time went on, it got to a period to which I wanted to run away or worse yet, end my life.  Obviously I didn’t since I am writing this post. Continue reading

The Power of God that Leads to Repentance

The Power of God that Leads to Repentance - Anchor Of Promise 

 

As parents of prodigals (teens and young adults), we often wonder when things get bad, if God is truly powerful to save our children.  We look at their issues and think to ourselves that they are just extraordinarily too big for us to handle or control.  We also begin to doubt in our belief that there is hope for our children.  

As I had been reading the news and viewing pictures of the hurricanes, one picture got my attention.  Once surrounded by ocean water, the docks in Florida were now instead, surrounded by dry sand.  

Looking back to the earlier days of science in the elementary, middle, and high school, weather predictions and phenomenons were only talked about and rarely seen. In fact, very few, including meteorologists, would have predicted or seen these special effects caused by these weather storms.  

Such as the case with Hurricane Irma that was so strong it swept away the ocean from the shoreline.  People were left scratching their heads in shock.  The only question on their mind was, “Where did the water go?”  

As I was reading Exodus 14:21, I came across a verse that gave the answer –  

Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD swept the sea back by a strong east wind all night and turned the sea into dry land, so the waters were divided.

Then in verse 27,

So Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and the sea returned to its normal state at daybreak, while the Egyptians were fleeing right into it; then the LORD overthrew the Egyptians in the midst of the sea.

Reading these verses reminded me that God is in control.  He also can allow calamity in order to bring about repentance and peace,  even through a storm. Remember, God has the power to breathe life into us as well as remove it.  Yet, His grace and mercy continues to pursue us in a manner that says how much He desires to love us and have a relationship with us.  He has those same thoughts and love toward our children too. 

The rescue of the Israelites from their enemies is a prime example.  God also has the same power to rescue our children from their destructive behaviors and lifestyles that seek to destroy them.  

Furthermore, the hurricanes of today can also awaken our children to question who will they look to for help and hope in their time of trouble.  This leads to repentance and change.  This is something that we cannot do for them. Only God can show them the answers by allowing circumstances to present themselves to our child.  All we need to do is pray for our teen and young adult.  God can do the rest.  

So the next time you visit the beach and walk along the beautiful sands of the shoreline, remind yourself that our Almighty God is in control and will guide your child back home.  

 

Side Note:  Please continue to pray for the states and islands who have been hit with the many hurricanes in the past month.  If you are looking to donate, please check out  Convoy of Hope – a Humanitarian Organization that helps those in need – most specifically those affected by the recent storms.   

 

Photo Courtesy of Jeremy Bishop (Unsplash.com) 

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