Give Thanks!

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Last minute shopping at the store, you lay all the items out on the table, and try to figure your preparations for Thanksgiving dinner.  This is the last thing you want to be doing.  You’d rather climb into bed under the covers and watch an old time goodie on the TV. Wouldn’t that be a nice distraction?  This would certainly take your mind off of the reality that you have a broken child and you don’t know how to fix them as you get through the holidays.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says,  Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Did God truly understand how hard it is to rejoice and be thankful with a teen or young adult in crisis?  Did God get the memo that we are tired, weary, and hurting over our wayward child?  Does He comprehend the magnitude of the pain we as parents have suffered because of the destructive choices our kids make?

Now certainly God is not asking us to have frozen smiling faces throughout the day.  However, we are not to look sullen and depressed when God has our back and is looking out for us.  He cares about our every worry, fear, sadness, and other emotions we are feeling at this time.

Jesus knows about the ills of our teen or young adult. This is why God wants to carry our burdens and encourages us to find joy in His presence.  By praying continually, our communication of intimacy with the Lord is what gives us the strength, peace, and comfort during our trials with our children. That is where we find His faithfulness too.  As I awoke this morning I began to sing the hymn “Great is Thy Faithfulness.”

Great is thy faithfulness, great is thy faithfulness, morning by morning new mercies I see.  All I have needed thy hand hath provided.  Great is thy faithfulness, Lord unto thee. (Hymn by Thomas Chisholm)

So today, remember God’s goodness for what He has done for you and what He will continue to do.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Stacy Lee

 

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I Have Not Forgotten You

I Have Not Forgotten You - Anchor Of Promise

 

As many of you know, I have not been as active as I would have liked on my blog. There have been many excuses, mainly one, that has kept me from keeping up to date with blog posts.  

The biggest reason is the publication of my first book, Turn the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis.  A long time coming, I am finally seeing the light of it being put to print. Book launch will be early spring 2019.

The devotions in this book relate to my emotional rollercoaster ride as a parent when my daughter was going through many crises.  For many parents, crises have focused on one or two issues such as a disorder, addiction, a mental illness, and so forth. For our family, mainly our daughter, there were too many issues to even count over a period of 15 years.  

Yes, I had a lot of emotional turbulence which kept me quite alone.  The good news though, is that each year, more resources, support, and one on one help is now available.  However, it doesn’t always take away the feeling of being alone when you are going through your tsunami storms of life.  

For me, I felt battered by every wave that hit us.  If I am feeling this way, I’m sure other parents are too.  Those thoughts persuaded me (along with others) to start journaling.  I had no idea my journaling would turn into writing a book about it.

With lots of prayer, encouragement, and guidance from great authors, agents, publishers, family, and friends, the book was born.  

Thank you for being so patient with me in not receiving weekly posts.  I will definitely change that in the coming weeks. In the meantime, please pray for the finishing edits and touches on the book.  This book was written for you.

 

Happy Autumn Blessings!

Stacy Lee

 

 

 

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Single Moms with Teens in Crisis – Meet Lynn

 

Single Moms of Teens in Crisis - Meet Lynn - Anchor Of Promise

When we think of “parents with a teen in crisis” we immediately come to the conclusion that mom and dad are involved.  However, there are also thousands of single moms and dads who struggle as parents too.  One such parent is my friend Lynn.  I asked her to share with me some of the difficulties she has endured as a single parent with a teen in crisis. We pray that you will find encouragement through Lynn’s story and that you are not alone in your single parenting journey.

Were you a stay at home mom or working mom when you noticed your daughter’s issues? I am a working mom who works from home and also cared for my mother who had health issues. Both of my daughters now are ages 21 and 23.

Each parent with a child in crisis has a story.  Can you give me a little background of how you became aware that your children were dealing with a serious issue?   While my oldest has had anger and insecurity issues due to a divorce, it is my youngest that has been most concerning.  In her senior year of high school her grades began to drop, she spoke of hating school and had friendships end.  I later came to find out that she was sexually assaulted by a football player who trapped her in his car.  She told no one.  To cope, she began experimenting with drugs.  She chose to attend a city college (which was a good move) but in her second year, I began to see her breakdown emotionally little by little.   At the end of the year, she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years, told me she was bi-sexual and began living a wild lifestyle.    She went skydiving, had her septum pierced, began losing weight rapidly, out at very late hours of the night, and clearly came home wasted.  My daughters and I are very close, are able to have transparent conversation and purpose time together.  So, not only was I trying to deal with her behavior, she shut me out of her life; I was a roommate of insignificance.  When school started again in the fall, she was having difficulty focusing, and tried working two jobs.  In January, she confessed she felt there was something mentally wrong with her as she began pulling out her hair and cutting herself.   She agreed to go into counseling which lead to a psychiatric diagnosis of bi-polar.  She is on medication and continues seeing her counselor which is helping her work through some core issues. Continue reading

Father’s Day Letter From a Hurting Teen

Father's Day Letter From a Hurting Teen - Anchor Of Promise

 

Keep praying Dads!  Your teen or young adult will one day come back and thank you too for never giving up on them.  This dad knows it.  There is HOPE!  Keep your faith in God as you continue to lift up your child to Him.  And thank you to this Dad for sharing this letter with Anchor Of Promise.  Happy Father’s Day!

The Silent Epidemic in Our Teens

The Silent Epidemic in Our Teens - Anchor Of Promise

There is a silent epidemic happening in our country of young teens, most specifically male youths.  I call it silent because you don’t always see it. It is often hidden from others. In fact, it hides behind a facade that everything is okay, when in reality, something is brewing.

Here are some prime examples of this silent epidemic.

17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis killed 10 people in Santa Fe High School – he was supposedly bullied and rejected by a girl that he liked.  Noted as being quiet and to himself. 

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/18/us/dimitrios-pagourtzis-gunman-texas-shooting.html

Nikolas Cruz slaughtered at least 17 students at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas HS – a loner, supposedly had impulse issues, was bullied, had major losses in his life with the death of his parents.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/02/15/florida-shooting-what-we-know-attack-parkland-high-school/340110002/

A 15-year-old teen with the help of two friends, strangled and stabbed his mother to death in Maine because they moved.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/04/24/out-control-teen-son-and-friends-strangled-stabbed-mom-over-move-to-maine-cops-say.html

16 year-old beats friend to death with baseball bat over jealousy of a girl he liked.

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/florida-16-old-allegedly-beats-friend-death-baseball-153404802–abc-news-topstories.html   

This silent epidemic is called Anger.  It’s an emotion that is in each and every one of us.  This includes growth spurting hormonal teenagers. Most teens express their anger through yelling, slamming doors, running off, or finding a place to be alone for hours.  Those types of responses are expected. However, for some teens, their anger differs. Their anger lingers and builds quietly, layer upon layer, with no filters or boundaries in place.   It lays dormant inside until an event triggers a volcanic eruption of violence that knows no limits. Continue reading