Being Thankful With a Child in Crisis

A time of thanksgiving and reflection is once again upon us. However, this year it comes with many challenges. Not only are we dealing with a national pandemic, but there is the added unresolved election, unemployment, and the school system in shambles.

If that weren’t the tip of the iceberg, you have a teen or young adult in crisis as well. How in the world can we lift up our heads during this holiday season and find the words to be thankful?

My youngest is still broken. She is still filled with hurt and pain and struggles every day with some serious issues. There are days that I wonder and ask God, “When will you heal her, when will I not have to worry anymore, when can I finally live a normal life?”

Well, here’s the kicker. Life will never be normal. Every day, I am thankful that she made it through another day. I am thankful that despite the many hardships and disappointments in life, I am thankful that my faith is not what it used to be – it is better!

For eight months I was out of work because of the covid. But praise God, even though it was difficult, I was able to spend time with my daughter and dive into her world a little more to try to understand the tremendous burdens she carries and what it will take for her get better.

I became more thankful FOR her problems because she educated me on how she lives every day in her mind. I would take what I learned and applied it to my knowledge bank so that I could guide and encourage her in a new way. I was and still am thankful for how God opened doors and brought individuals into our lives that specifically work in the areas of my daughter’s disabilities and struggles. God is good.

God never changes. Our circumstances change, our lives change, and God remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. So until now and Thanksgiving Day, find at lease one thing to be thankful for in your life and include your child into that time of Thanksgiving. I promise, your spirit will be filled with praise, thankfulness, and peace in the midst of any storm you are faced with. Thank you God for your goodness!

There is Nothing to be Thankful for…Or is There? 

There is Nothing to be Thankful for...Or is There - Anchor Of Promise

Those words echoed from my lips several years ago when we were at the pinnacle of crises with our daughter.  Part of me wanted to complain and throw in the towel for the “whole being thankful” attitude during the month of November.  After all, I was not in a place emotionally to celebrate with family and friends while my daughter was incarcerated.  

While others around me talked about traveling, seeing family they haven’t seen in years, doing reunions with friends, and planning the big Thanksgiving dinner with shopping day after,  I was lamenting how much I hated it. Seriously, what was there really to celebrate?  Continue reading

Hot Off the Press!

Five years of God leading me to write a book, it has now come to fruition.  My prayer for you dear parent, is that you will find hope and encouragement in this devotional as you journey through your emotional turbulent storms with your teen/young adult.  To learn more of where to get this devotional – Turning the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis

 

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I Used To Hate Mother’s Day

I Used to Hate Mother's Day - Anchor Of Promise

 

I used to hate Mother’s Day.  Did you hear that? “Used” to! I would see all of the mother’s surrounded by their smiling and laughing children of all ages giving honor to their mom.  These children would present signs, crafts, give gifts, and bestow beautiful words of love and respect onto their mother.

Me?  Nada!  I dreaded this once a year holiday.  Why? Because there were crises left and right, ongoing drama, heartless thanks, and a plethora of other problems toppled on each other.  Instead of feeling I just came out of a word entrenched spa enjoying the accolades of praise for being the best mom, I was instead left in tears, guilt, shame, hurt, and pain for being a mom to a teen with serious issues.  

I envied other moms.  I was jealous of how they spent time with their families enveloped by so much love it would burst like the Fourth of July fireworks.  Unlike that moment, I stayed in bed with the covers over my head wishing I could start life over. Did I say I hated Mother’s Day? Continue reading