Years ago I watched the movie called, “The Impossible”. It was based on the true story of a family engulfed in the waters of a large tsunami in Thailand. Confronted with unimaginable obstacles, the parents were desperate to find their children and each other. They would not give up no matter the cost. The physical, mental, and emotional waves of agony from their circumstances would cause any parent to be fearful, distressed and in crisis.
Today, there are waves of crisis pulling many parents under through their hurting teen. In the eyes of the parent, their problems look too big and impossible to change for the better. These types of crises vary from family to family: suicidal attempts, mental illness, drug overdose, self-harming, risky behaviors, running away, etc… Continue reading
A while back I spoke with a young woman whose daughter was in a program appointed by the court. Her daughter would be staying in the program for about a year. This was really hard on the mom but if the program was going to help her daughter, then she would do her best to be strong and support her child while they finished out the year being separated.
Being away from her daughter was going to be very difficult. However, her hopes and desires for her daughter would be for her to succeed from the program with improved behavior and get the therapy that she so desperately needed. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long in which this mother began to quickly understand the undermining of her authority by those in the program. Continue reading
About a year ago, I worked at a toy store as a part-time sales person. I needed to get my feet wet in the working world because I knew eventually I would need to go full-time which I am doing now.
During that period, I worked side by side with a lot of young people. Yes, I was the oldest employee there – ha! But I admit I loved talking to customers and demonstrating the toys, especially the ball-handled scooters and the E-Z rollers which are so much fun.
Being around young people on a daily basis, conversations of different topics came easily. If the timing is right and a person is open enough to share about their life, stories evolve and you begin to learn a lot about that person. It is even more interesting when that person is Kate at seventeen. Continue reading
Did you reach the end of your rope in rescuing your teen? Have you prayed or begged God to fix your child to what you thought was best for them? Was there a time in which your teen’s life was coming together only to turn around and get redirected in the opposite direction?
I have gone through all of those situations and guess what I learned?
There was nothing that I could do. That’s right. I couldn’t change the circumstances. I couldn’t figure out the plans. I had exhausted myself from worry and fear and tried everything to no avail.
I had poured out my heart and life to God for every situation and crisis with no change as a result?
It wasn’t until I learned this secret that I understood why. Continue reading
Someone once told me several years ago that I shouldn’t be as involved in my teen’s life and to let them make their own decisions and mistakes.
I partially agreed. You can say to most parents that letting your kids make their own mistakes is a good thing. It teaches them many valuable lessons.
However, if you have a teen with a mental illness, a debilitating disorder, or a teen who has an addiction, you should never accept that advice.
When a teen is in crisis, they have many strikes against them. Here are just two.
- Their comprehending and reasoning skills are not fully developed yet as a teen.
- They are more prone to influences that encourage them to act upon risky behavior that is harmful.