The aftermath of Hurricane Harvey was a devastating blow to the state of Texas. Although the warnings were there ahead of time, what couldn’t be predicted was the amount of destruction it would cause.
The families in Texas feel lost, depressed, discouraged, and unsure of the future. For some, it left catastrophic effects and major loss of their property, animals, and even loved ones.
Around the corner now, Hurricane Irma is bearing down in the ocean leading another path to its target, although unknown at the moment.
To control a hurricane is like trying to control an earthquake. The pre-existing facts are there, but it is too big to stop it.
We can often see the impending crisis with our teen similar to the radar of a hurricane. To control or stop it is another matter. We see the signs for example, in our drug addicted child or self-harming teen, but to bring a halt to their destructive behavior is not something we as parents can physically control. Before we know it, the crisis is beyond our imagination of what we knew to be true. Continue reading
Today, we are seeing a rise in violence and harm towards our children, pre-teens and teens. Whether it is gun violence, physical/sexual assault, or self-inflicted harm, the younger generation is broken and hurting like never before.
In our country, there is an increased devaluation of human life. The sex-trade and human trafficking has crossed borders not only into our country but also in every state. Immoral and worldly propaganda has filled their minds that right is wrong and wrong is right. Protecting our children has become a major priority among parents. A teen in crisis raises that bar of protection because they are more vulnerable due to their shaky foundation.
With so much uncertainty in this volatile world, our teens are also fearful. We may believe their outrageous and risky behavior is coming from a tough interior, but this is not true. They feel hopeless. They think they are worthless. Their future seems bleak to them. They feel alone. In their minds, they don’t believe anyone loves them or cares about them. They too, also see the world changing with not much to look forward to. Continue reading
Living with a teen in crisis is tiring. Let’s face it. You are drained emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. All you want is a sabbatical from the daily life of an out of control teen who constantly displays risky and dangerous behavior. You’re fed up. You have nothing else to give to change what is happening.
I remember many times in which things were so bad that I wanted to run away. I also wanted to kill myself. Yep! I went through so many emotions – shock, confusion, anger, depression, days of constant crying, and days of not even caring to feed myself. Continue reading
I’ve been ignoring it. I’ve been walking by it. I’ve put it off day after day. But today, I couldn’t close my eyes to it anymore.
Weeds. I hate weeds. Obviously they are a nuisance. They get out of control. They will overtake you. They will drive you insane. What is more irritating is how some of them will trick you to believe that they just might end up as a beautiful bonafide flower. Problem is, you have to wait it out to know for sure.
Weeds. I hate weeds. Now of course I could attack them with a top of the line weed killer spray. Unfortunately, that will also kill off all the flowers you so preciously have cared for that the weeds have so graciously grew up next to. If you want those flowers to last and last, this leaves you no other option but to be proactive to fight every weed that comes near your flowers and tries to choke it to death. Continue reading
When I was growing up, I was not very close to my father. In fact, as I got older in my teen years, my relationship was almost non-existent. We rarely spoke. Although I badly wanted to have a relationship with him, part of the problem was due to the fact that he was an only child. He also experienced the loss of his mother at the age of twelve and the rejection of his own father soon after that loss.
Needless to say, he was not given a good fatherly image nor was he able to truly deal with all the heavy baggage he carried as he aged. Continue reading