In the news of late is the huge publicity of the movie “50 Shades” which centers on the storyline of the controversial book. The movie, due to its graphic story plot and scenes, easily merits an “NC17” but was slated for an “R” rating.
However, what is more concerning about this movie is the after-affect that it will have among the young of both sexes.
Sadly, many teens and young adults get their sex education from porn. This movie is just another perspective but normalizing and romanticizing abuse in a bigger way – through the theater.
If we do not talk to our teens, as difficult as it may be to parents, then expect more of the 50 Shades type of movie to not only to continue that education them but further twist and distort the truth about real love.
If we do not use teachable moments with our pre-teens/teenagers about how porn and stories like this can destroy marriages and families, it will lead down the path of destructive and abusive relationships.
So keeping that in mind, I decided to write my own “50 Shades – What It Teaches Young Teens”. Continue reading
“Do you shave your legs?” he asked. “No.” she replied. “Then you need to because you’re looking like a hairy monkey!” he responded.
That one comment started her journey into negative body imaging and low self-esteem for the next 5 years. She was only 10 when that comment was made. Little did she know that these words would change her perception of how she saw herself in a dramatic way.
Words like this have a lot of power in a young girl’s life. It wouldn’t matter if the male figure was 12, 15 or 20. A young girl bases her whole body on how the opposite sex views her if she doesn’t have enough self-esteem and self-respect for herself.
One moment. One comment. That’s all it took. Continue reading
Cutting. It is one of the fastest growing self-harm issues of today among teens. Many parents assume that it only happens among girls which is true to an extent, but as you look at the alarming statistics, boys also self-harm and are not too far behind.
Studies show that cutting can start as young as 7 but the average start is between the ages of 10-16. When high school hits, girls are three times higher. Cutting has been around for half a century or longer but it is now becoming more prevalent in our society.
So why do they cut? Each teen has different reasons for their cutting. For some it is stress at school or at home. It could come from bullying or personal family problems. It can be from abandonment or psychological sufferings that they are tormented with such as abuse, incest, rape, body issues, rejection and more. Any of these reasons can make them susceptible to self-harm but in the end, it is a form of control and coping skill. Continue reading