I Have Not Forgotten You

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As many of you know, I have not been as active as I would have liked on my blog. There have been many excuses, mainly one, that has kept me from keeping up to date with blog posts.  

The biggest reason is the publication of my first book, Turn the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis.  A long time coming, I am finally seeing the light of it being put to print. Book launch will be early spring 2019.

The devotions in this book relate to my emotional rollercoaster ride as a parent when my daughter was going through many crises.  For many parents, crises have focused on one or two issues such as a disorder, addiction, a mental illness, and so forth. For our family, mainly our daughter, there were too many issues to even count over a period of 15 years.  

Yes, I had a lot of emotional turbulence which kept me quite alone.  The good news though, is that each year, more resources, support, and one on one help is now available.  However, it doesn’t always take away the feeling of being alone when you are going through your tsunami storms of life.  

For me, I felt battered by every wave that hit us.  If I am feeling this way, I’m sure other parents are too.  Those thoughts persuaded me (along with others) to start journaling.  I had no idea my journaling would turn into writing a book about it.

With lots of prayer, encouragement, and guidance from great authors, agents, publishers, family, and friends, the book was born.  

Thank you for being so patient with me in not receiving weekly posts.  I will definitely change that in the coming weeks. In the meantime, please pray for the finishing edits and touches on the book.  This book was written for you.

 

Happy Autumn Blessings!

Stacy Lee

 

 

 

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Seasons of Change

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We have said goodbye to winter and hello to spring.  With that, it has also brought seasons of change in my personal life as well.  

During one of those seasons, I broke my toe, hurt a rib, and was congratulated for getting the flu.  All at the same time! No fun.

If that weren’t enough, our house went up for sale.  Can you imagine a hobbling sick woman trying to clean her house for visitors, coughing with an “ouch” at the end of each move? Continue reading

Holiday Merry or Holiday Misery?

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Parents who struggle with a teen in crisis find it extremely overwhelming to get through the holidays.  Although Thanksgiving has passed, another holiday is around the corner – Christmas.

While every other parent around you is singing in holiday cheer, you are thinking about how you can just get through the day.  While your co-worker or friend talks about how excited they are that their child is coming home for a holiday visit, you are thinking more about how to help your child in crisis.  Maybe you are faced with a child who needs to get into a detox program.  Maybe you need to figure out how to get your child to eat that holiday dinner when they struggle with an eating disorder.

And let us not forget those parents who have teens who have suicidal tendencies or mental health issues and are not into celebrating any holiday. Continue reading

I Want My Life Back!

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As I was decorating for the fall, I was reminded of the countless times in the past I was consumed by the many crises of my teen. Those crises preoccupied my life to the point that finding joy in a new season or celebrating a holiday became non-existent.  

Having a teen or young adult in crisis dominates your life physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  You find yourself not living your life anymore but that of your child.  Everything is about them.  Literally!  

I had no time to clean my house.  I had no availability to see friends.  I craved to be alone and couldn’t.  I spent all my time going to a counselor and doctor appts., searching the web or reading for answers to serious issues. I was too tired to think about cooking or to eat a regular meal.  My wash was piled up and dishes constantly left in the sink.  

When I went to work, my mind was consumed even more because I wasn’t home to see what was going on.  When I went to church, I wanted to hide from others so that I wasn’t twenty-questioned about our family. As time went on, it got to a period to which I wanted to run away or worse yet, end my life.  Obviously I didn’t since I am writing this post. Continue reading

The Power of God that Leads to Repentance

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As parents of prodigals (teens and young adults), we often wonder when things get bad, if God is truly powerful to save our children.  We look at their issues and think to ourselves that they are just extraordinarily too big for us to handle or control.  We also begin to doubt in our belief that there is hope for our children.  

As I had been reading the news and viewing pictures of the hurricanes, one picture got my attention.  Once surrounded by ocean water, the docks in Florida were now instead, surrounded by dry sand.  

Looking back to the earlier days of science in the elementary, middle, and high school, weather predictions and phenomenons were only talked about and rarely seen. In fact, very few, including meteorologists, would have predicted or seen these special effects caused by these weather storms.  

Such as the case with Hurricane Irma that was so strong it swept away the ocean from the shoreline.  People were left scratching their heads in shock.  The only question on their mind was, “Where did the water go?”  

As I was reading Exodus 14:21, I came across a verse that gave the answer –  

Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD swept the sea back by a strong east wind all night and turned the sea into dry land, so the waters were divided.

Then in verse 27,

So Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and the sea returned to its normal state at daybreak, while the Egyptians were fleeing right into it; then the LORD overthrew the Egyptians in the midst of the sea.

Reading these verses reminded me that God is in control.  He also can allow calamity in order to bring about repentance and peace,  even through a storm. Remember, God has the power to breathe life into us as well as remove it.  Yet, His grace and mercy continues to pursue us in a manner that says how much He desires to love us and have a relationship with us.  He has those same thoughts and love toward our children too. 

The rescue of the Israelites from their enemies is a prime example.  God also has the same power to rescue our children from their destructive behaviors and lifestyles that seek to destroy them.  

Furthermore, the hurricanes of today can also awaken our children to question who will they look to for help and hope in their time of trouble.  This leads to repentance and change.  This is something that we cannot do for them. Only God can show them the answers by allowing circumstances to present themselves to our child.  All we need to do is pray for our teen and young adult.  God can do the rest.  

So the next time you visit the beach and walk along the beautiful sands of the shoreline, remind yourself that our Almighty God is in control and will guide your child back home.  

 

Side Note:  Please continue to pray for the states and islands who have been hit with the many hurricanes in the past month.  If you are looking to donate, please check out  Convoy of Hope – a Humanitarian Organization that helps those in need – most specifically those affected by the recent storms.   

 

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