As many know, I just published a devotional for parents with teens in crisis. One of the thoughts of those reading my book was, “I guess her kids are doing great and out of their problems.”
Just need to say this… The answer to that is “No!” They are still struggling and dealing with a lot of issues. Some are extremely serious and other problems will need more time to heal.
The point is this…the issues I faced in the past are very different in how I face them today. Why? Throughout the years while my children were hurting and in pain, I was a parent who was broken too. I carried guilt, shame, discouragement, hopelessness, and many other emotions too heavy for a parent to be burdened with. I also struggled with chronic depression and was not in a healthy place. Continue reading
You have found cocaine in your son’s drawers as you put his clothes away. You’re devastated. You caught your child in the act of self-harming after promises of quitting. You are saddened. Your teen has “come out” as bi-sexual and you wonder where you went wrong. You’re guilt-ridden after finding out your daughter was taken from school to the hospital due to a suicidal attempt.
What on earth do you do? Continue reading
Five years of God leading me to write a book, it has now come to fruition. My prayer for you dear parent, is that you will find hope and encouragement in this devotional as you journey through your emotional turbulent storms with your teen/young adult. To learn more of where to get this devotional – Turning the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis
A dear friend of mine recently sent me an email letter discussing the very famous saying, “God never gives you more than what you can handle.”
So the question is, “Does God give you more than what you can handle?”
My daughter and I had this very on topic discussion recently. As a young adult with PTSD, anxiety disorder, depression, mild mood disorder, and CAPD along with short term memory issues, every problem that surfaced was magnified. That is how teens and young adults view their problems too When difficult times come their way and they can’t handle it, they find that they failed God or God is punishing them as though they did not have enough faith to get through their circumstances.
Telling our child that God never gives them more than what they can handle, sets them up for disaster. How? When a teen is faced with insurmountable odds and they have tried everything in their mind to survive it, they come to the conclusion that they are too weak to conquer anything and will give up. This is especially true for a teen who struggles with deep depression and is suicidal. Continue reading
I used to hate Mother’s Day. Did you hear that? “Used” to! I would see all of the mother’s surrounded by their smiling and laughing children of all ages giving honor to their mom. These children would present signs, crafts, give gifts, and bestow beautiful words of love and respect onto their mother.
Me? Nada! I dreaded this once a year holiday. Why? Because there were crises left and right, ongoing drama, heartless thanks, and a plethora of other problems toppled on each other. Instead of feeling I just came out of a word entrenched spa enjoying the accolades of praise for being the best mom, I was instead left in tears, guilt, shame, hurt, and pain for being a mom to a teen with serious issues.
I envied other moms. I was jealous of how they spent time with their families enveloped by so much love it would burst like the Fourth of July fireworks. Unlike that moment, I stayed in bed with the covers over my head wishing I could start life over. Did I say I hated Mother’s Day? Continue reading