10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 2

Find a Counselor – Kids hate counselors. Doesn’t matter their age whether they are a teen to a young adult, they all feel the same way. Why? First and foremost, the fact that the parents have picked them out is part of the reason.  They didn’t have a whole lot of say in the matter or get to be a part of the decision making as to “who” they would be spilling their guts to.  So…. it is important that they play an integral part in who their next counselor will be.  The best route to go is to pick 2 – 3 counselors, meet with them, then ask your child to whom they had a connection with (which makes counseling all the easier for everyone involved), and then make a choice from there.  P.S. – the child HAS to pick one of them.  They cannot opt for no one. 

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10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 1

Find Help!  Resources are aplenty nowadays for hurting parents struggling with a child in crisis (whether it is a teen or young adult). However, the amount of those resources are overwhelming.  Best way to get through it – ask friends and family to help you in your research.  Give them the criteria of what you are looking for, and have them print out the details.  E.g. – if you have a child with an eating disorder – find all Christian-based books. Programs, websites, blogs, FB support groups, and organizations that give support and one on one guidance.  Write down the ten ideal things that you are looking for and have your family and friends decipher through the information and highlight it.  This will save valuable time as well as frustration.

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A Season of Hope

Jesus, the light of the world, the light of HOPE! As I scrolled through the many pictures of my friends who posted beautiful family photos, I couldn’t help wanting the same thing. But you see, my family is different. We have broken children who are hurting, struggling, and we as parents are hurting for them. Here is the hope – Jesus provides the answer and He has a healing power that will one day make them whole. While we wait, He sends peace to our weary hearts and even joy in between to give us the strength to keep going, keep trusting, and building our faith too. So rejoice! He knows your heart and your requests. Keep praying and focus your eyes on Jesus!

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The Monster That Lives Within

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Have you ever thought for a random second or two that there is something really wrong with your child?  Did a horrendous thought pop in your head about your child doing something that is beyond your scope to imagine?  Maybe it was a word spoken, an action taken, a response you were not expecting. 

Maybe your son or daughter made a comment about how much they hated the world and wanted to rid them. Maybe it was a slammed door that reverberated throughout the house by a trigger that set them off in anger and violence. How about the moment in which you see markings on your child from self-harm or written words on their body that made you wonder what they have gotten themselves into now.   Continue reading

To The Escape Room I Go!

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I admit it.  If I have the chance to hide from my teen, I would do it in a heartbeat.  There are just times in which I have to go to my escape room and lock the door.  

I hid there for many reasons.  When I kept myself from acting out against my own teen and regret my words or actions, my escape room was the place to go. Other reasons were to keep my sanity or not allow my teen to see me fall apart.  I went there for solitude, to help me think, and to let go of my own pain of being a parent to a child in constant crisis.   Continue reading