He Came to Save Us, All of Us

As the world comes to a pause to celebrate Christ’s death and resurrection, I am reminded of how much He cares for each and every one of us, and especially so, for our broken and wayward children. 

All around us has become filled with fear, hopelessness, anger, and depression.  People of many ages and families struggling to get through the days and nights.  Every morning there is another highlight of something that is discouraging or news that creates more despair.  

The Heavenly Father knew our world would be troubled.  He knew that we needed to be saved from our own sin and death.  He knew a Savior was needed to give us life. 

What hope would there be if Christ did not give His life as an offering so that we could live? What mercy would we have had if Christ changed His mind and walked away from death?  Today we live in a hurting and dying world where everyone is searching for answers.  The good news is that our Savior has come, and IS our ANSWER! 

Parents, God gave us His Son to not only give us eternal life, but to set our children free from their life of pain, waywardness, hurt, and brokenness.  God already knew the plan before it was set forth.  Part of His plan was to set captives free through Jesus. Those captives are our sons and daughters who are struggling with addictions, self-injury, mental illness, disorders, a life of crime, sexual identity issues, and more.  

Jesus’ blood on the cross was more than just forgiving and cleansing us from our sin.  His blood was a healing lifeline for us and our children.  Thank you Father, for your compassion on us!

So as you look upon your teen and young adult this day, remember, Jesus already bore his life on the cross for your child and one day, they will encounter freedom in Him like nothing they have ever experienced before.  Keep praying parent.  Our HOPE has risen! Jesus Christ our Lord!

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16

How Do You Handle a Response to Judgment as a Parent?

Parenting is a lifetime of judgment.  Let’s face it, there is no guidebook on parenting when you have a teen or young adult in crisis and we all make mistakes along the way.  I can raise both hands on this and say I made aplenty.   

I certainly was not as proactive as I could have been. However, I also did not understand mental illness or disorders either and most parents don’t in the beginning. I have come a long way since then and my failures and experiences are now the top key things I am very open about so that other parents don’t fall into the same trap as I did.  

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10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 2

Find a Counselor – Kids hate counselors. Doesn’t matter their age whether they are a teen to a young adult, they all feel the same way. Why? First and foremost, the fact that the parents have picked them out is part of the reason.  They didn’t have a whole lot of say in the matter or get to be a part of the decision making as to “who” they would be spilling their guts to.  So…. it is important that they play an integral part in who their next counselor will be.  The best route to go is to pick 2 – 3 counselors, meet with them, then ask your child to whom they had a connection with (which makes counseling all the easier for everyone involved), and then make a choice from there.  P.S. – the child HAS to pick one of them.  They cannot opt for no one. 

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10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 1

Find Help!  Resources are aplenty nowadays for hurting parents struggling with a child in crisis (whether it is a teen or young adult). However, the amount of those resources are overwhelming.  Best way to get through it – ask friends and family to help you in your research.  Give them the criteria of what you are looking for, and have them print out the details.  E.g. – if you have a child with an eating disorder – find all Christian-based books. Programs, websites, blogs, FB support groups, and organizations that give support and one on one guidance.  Write down the ten ideal things that you are looking for and have your family and friends decipher through the information and highlight it.  This will save valuable time as well as frustration.

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A Season of Hope

Jesus, the light of the world, the light of HOPE! As I scrolled through the many pictures of my friends who posted beautiful family photos, I couldn’t help wanting the same thing. But you see, my family is different. We have broken children who are hurting, struggling, and we as parents are hurting for them. Here is the hope – Jesus provides the answer and He has a healing power that will one day make them whole. While we wait, He sends peace to our weary hearts and even joy in between to give us the strength to keep going, keep trusting, and building our faith too. So rejoice! He knows your heart and your requests. Keep praying and focus your eyes on Jesus!

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