NUMB

Have you ever felt numb and dead inside? Maybe it was an incident that left you shocked, bewildered, and speechless.  Quite possibly, a situation arose with your teen or young adult that shattered your dreams for them.  Perhaps your child requires so much of your energy, thinking, and emotions, you are left exhausted with nothing more to give. Maybe they caused you pain and your response was to just shutdown.

I have been there.  Sometimes, I even visit there from time to time. I often wonder to myself why I was left with so many burdens to carry because of my child in crisis.  From a teen to a young adult now, some of those crises enlarged or new ones evolved.  Some of those struggles were self-inflicted while others were not.

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When It Is Difficult To See God In Your Crisis

Imagine yourself on the sea, running into a fog so thick, even with your hand in front of you, it is not in view.  How can you guide yourself across the ocean and make it to your final destination? 

Fear runs into your veins as you navigate the waters.  Questions go through your mind. What could be in front of me that I cannot visually see?  Do I turn left, right, or keep straight? Do I take in the sails to slow down or redirect and turn around? Do I drop the anchor to stay still and wait for the fog to pass?

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10 Reasons to be Thankful On Mother’s Day When Filled With Hurt and Pain

Mother’s Day is one of the most joyous OR most painful day of the year. Like tears on a rose, it can reflect overwhelming joy or deep sorrow. Sadly, there are more mothers who do not experience praises from their child, but endure pain from a wayward teen or young adult in crisis. 

These crises are not ones in which your child can’t find their shoes or can’t get to their job on time.  It is not from a haircut gone wrong or having a disagreement with a friend.  No, the crises I am referring to are the ones centered around addictions, eating disorders, suicidal tendencies, mental illness, sexual identities, rebellious behaviors, and more.

The most notable day of the year, Mother’s Day, is difficult to celebrate when you have a teen or young adult who shuns you, says mean things, and doesn’t care..  

How can we as mothers, enjoy this day when our hearts are hurting and we are left with tears?

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Hurts That Run Deep

Ouch!  Like the snap of a stretched rubber band that stings when it hits you, that is often the feeling you get when your child in crisis has hurt your heart. 

Most hurts are emotional than physical.  Either way, they can both be painful.  Hurts can also have a lasting effect on your relationship between you and your teen/young adult.  

Parents don’t ask or beg for it.  Like a punch to the stomach unexpectedly, they are taken by surprise with the aim more to the heart.  

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He Came to Save Us, All of Us

As the world comes to a pause to celebrate Christ’s death and resurrection, I am reminded of how much He cares for each and every one of us, and especially so, for our broken and wayward children. 

All around us has become filled with fear, hopelessness, anger, and depression.  People of many ages and families struggling to get through the days and nights.  Every morning there is another highlight of something that is discouraging or news that creates more despair.  

The Heavenly Father knew our world would be troubled.  He knew that we needed to be saved from our own sin and death.  He knew a Savior was needed to give us life. 

What hope would there be if Christ did not give His life as an offering so that we could live? What mercy would we have had if Christ changed His mind and walked away from death?  Today we live in a hurting and dying world where everyone is searching for answers.  The good news is that our Savior has come, and IS our ANSWER! 

Parents, God gave us His Son to not only give us eternal life, but to set our children free from their life of pain, waywardness, hurt, and brokenness.  God already knew the plan before it was set forth.  Part of His plan was to set captives free through Jesus. Those captives are our sons and daughters who are struggling with addictions, self-injury, mental illness, disorders, a life of crime, sexual identity issues, and more.  

Jesus’ blood on the cross was more than just forgiving and cleansing us from our sin.  His blood was a healing lifeline for us and our children.  Thank you Father, for your compassion on us!

So as you look upon your teen and young adult this day, remember, Jesus already bore his life on the cross for your child and one day, they will encounter freedom in Him like nothing they have ever experienced before.  Keep praying parent.  Our HOPE has risen! Jesus Christ our Lord!

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16