There is a show called, “Strange Addictions” that covers a huge gamut of self-prescribed addictive behaviors from licking the fur off of a cat and eating it, stinging yourself with bees or even sniffing/snorting moth balls. Although there were many other strange and peculiar self-harming addictions, some common factors stood out.
Many found their addiction as a way of coping with other issues in their life. Secondly, some of these types of addictions also suffered from other mental health disorders. When listening to their stories, they often mention a pivotal point in their life that triggered this issue. Continue reading
She had a huge crush on the boy. She was only 9 but he was much older. A mere 14 years of age but old enough to know what he was doing. Picking up on the fact that she didn’t feel good about herself, he honed in on her crush and took advantage of it.
Opportunities presented themselves in which on-line chats were formed. He told her how pretty she was and that no one would love her the way he did. He said all the right words for her to hear. Feeling so unworthy at such a young age, she soaked up the praises being bestowed upon her and was willing to do anything in return for his devotion.
Then it happened. This day she could do something for him. This was not how she wanted to make him happy, but she felt obligated because he was so kind to her.
“I want you to take off your shirt,” he said. She balked at the idea because it felt so wrong to her. But then, she had changed her mind. Why? “If you don’t do this, I will kill you and your family. I have done a lot for you. I’m your master now. You have no one but me because I know the real you. So do what I say,” he threatened. Continue reading
Telling her own personal story as a teen and what her mom was faced with, Adria shares what it was like being faced with the fact that her depression and anxiety as well as self-harm was leading her to a road of destruction. Her mom was left with little alternatives other than to put Adria into a hospital to get help. Adria shares what those moments were like. Calling out to God did something she hadn’t expected which turned her life around. As a parent, I could identify with everything Adria shared having the fact that my own daughter went through an identical situation. We as parents can learn a lot from our teens and their emotional state and where their thoughts are taking them. I applaud Adria for exposing something very personal in her life so that she could help others. My prayer is that her life will be a beacon of hope for others that God does hear us when we call out to Him.
Cutting. It is one of the fastest growing self-harm issues of today among teens. Many parents assume that it only happens among girls which is true to an extent, but as you look at the alarming statistics, boys also self-harm and are not too far behind.
Studies show that cutting can start as young as 7 but the average start is between the ages of 10-16. When high school hits, girls are three times higher. Cutting has been around for half a century or longer but it is now becoming more prevalent in our society.
So why do they cut? Each teen has different reasons for their cutting. For some it is stress at school or at home. It could come from bullying or personal family problems. It can be from abandonment or psychological sufferings that they are tormented with such as abuse, incest, rape, body issues, rejection and more. Any of these reasons can make them susceptible to self-harm but in the end, it is a form of control and coping skill. Continue reading