As many know, I just published a devotional for parents with teens in crisis. One of the thoughts of those reading my book was, “I guess her kids are doing great and out of their problems.”
Just need to say this… The answer to that is “No!” They are still struggling and dealing with a lot of issues. Some are extremely serious and other problems will need more time to heal.
The point is this…the issues I faced in the past are very different in how I face them today. Why? Throughout the years while my children were hurting and in pain, I was a parent who was broken too. I carried guilt, shame, discouragement, hopelessness, and many other emotions too heavy for a parent to be burdened with. I also struggled with chronic depression and was not in a healthy place. Continue reading
Five years of God leading me to write a book, it has now come to fruition. My prayer for you dear parent, is that you will find hope and encouragement in this devotional as you journey through your emotional turbulent storms with your teen/young adult. To learn more of where to get this devotional – Turning the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis
PTSD was a vague term when I was growing up. Military men and women returning from war struggled to be a part of society due to the trauma they encountered. You heard of stories told in which men and women (mostly men), struggled to get by with daily life. Years later, a diagnosis was finally given to identify PTSD in those who served during the wars.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder originally became defined for anyone who suffered trauma from a war or horrific event in their life either through experience or as a witness. Now, in the year 2019, veterans are not the only ones given this diagnosis. Teens and young adults are falling into this category as well. Today PTSD is diagnosed for anyone who has suffered from a car crash, a rape, natural disaster, abuse, etc…. To give you a glimpse of someone who wrestles with PTSD, here are the main symptom indicators: Continue reading
I used to hate Mother’s Day. Did you hear that? “Used” to! I would see all of the mother’s surrounded by their smiling and laughing children of all ages giving honor to their mom. These children would present signs, crafts, give gifts, and bestow beautiful words of love and respect onto their mother.
Me? Nada! I dreaded this once a year holiday. Why? Because there were crises left and right, ongoing drama, heartless thanks, and a plethora of other problems toppled on each other. Instead of feeling I just came out of a word entrenched spa enjoying the accolades of praise for being the best mom, I was instead left in tears, guilt, shame, hurt, and pain for being a mom to a teen with serious issues.
I envied other moms. I was jealous of how they spent time with their families enveloped by so much love it would burst like the Fourth of July fireworks. Unlike that moment, I stayed in bed with the covers over my head wishing I could start life over. Did I say I hated Mother’s Day? Continue reading
In the past several months I have had to purge through life’s memories, pack tons of treasure troves, and prepare for a life change – moving from a large home to a small apartment. Never had I realized the years of accumulation we had collected. For my husband, it was sixty years worth passed down from the generations before him. For me, collectibles and books were my passion through time.
This season of change was not only overwhelming but exhausting in every way possible. As parents of a struggling young adult now, challenges are still very fresh and new. Many of us see our kids grow up with crises and believe they will outgrow those moments of brokenness as they age. That is not always the case.
I think of the parents whose children are still involved or addicted to drugs and alcohol. Then there are the parents who have older teens and young adults chained by their eating disorders or sexual identity and porn issues. What about the parents who find themselves back at square one with their child who has a mental illness or struggle with suicidal tendencies? Continue reading