Parents who struggle with a teen in crisis find it extremely overwhelming to get through the holidays. Although Thanksgiving has passed, another holiday is around the corner – Christmas.
While every other parent around you is singing in holiday cheer, you are thinking about how you can just get through the day. While your co-worker or friend talks about how excited they are that their child is coming home for a holiday visit, you are thinking more about how to help your child in crisis. Maybe you are faced with a child who needs to get into a detox program. Maybe you need to figure out how to get your child to eat that holiday dinner when they struggle with an eating disorder.
And let us not forget those parents who have teens who have suicidal tendencies or mental health issues and are not into celebrating any holiday. Continue reading
One of the biggest frustrations parents have is when their teen/young adult child is unwilling to listen to sound wisdom. Even more frustrating is when your child is in crisis and thinks that their wisdom is more sound than yours.
Teens and young adults are wrapped up in their emotions, feelings, and urgency of the circumstances that surround them. This clouds the consequences of their choices and actions. Continue reading
As I was decorating for the fall, I was reminded of the countless times in the past I was consumed by the many crises of my teen. Those crises preoccupied my life to the point that finding joy in a new season or celebrating a holiday became non-existent.
Having a teen or young adult in crisis dominates your life physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You find yourself not living your life anymore but that of your child. Everything is about them. Literally!
I had no time to clean my house. I had no availability to see friends. I craved to be alone and couldn’t. I spent all my time going to a counselor and doctor appts., searching the web or reading for answers to serious issues. I was too tired to think about cooking or to eat a regular meal. My wash was piled up and dishes constantly left in the sink.
When I went to work, my mind was consumed even more because I wasn’t home to see what was going on. When I went to church, I wanted to hide from others so that I wasn’t twenty-questioned about our family. As time went on, it got to a period to which I wanted to run away or worse yet, end my life. Obviously I didn’t since I am writing this post. Continue reading
The aftermath of Hurricane Harvey was a devastating blow to the state of Texas. Although the warnings were there ahead of time, what couldn’t be predicted was the amount of destruction it would cause.
The families in Texas feel lost, depressed, discouraged, and unsure of the future. For some, it left catastrophic effects and major loss of their property, animals, and even loved ones.
Around the corner now, Hurricane Irma is bearing down in the ocean leading another path to its target, although unknown at the moment.
To control a hurricane is like trying to control an earthquake. The pre-existing facts are there, but it is too big to stop it.
We can often see the impending crisis with our teen similar to the radar of a hurricane. To control or stop it is another matter. We see the signs for example, in our drug addicted child or self-harming teen, but to bring a halt to their destructive behavior is not something we as parents can physically control. Before we know it, the crisis is beyond our imagination of what we knew to be true. Continue reading
Today, we are seeing a rise in violence and harm towards our children, pre-teens and teens. Whether it is gun violence, physical/sexual assault, or self-inflicted harm, the younger generation is broken and hurting like never before.
In our country, there is an increased devaluation of human life. The sex-trade and human trafficking has crossed borders not only into our country but also in every state. Immoral and worldly propaganda has filled their minds that right is wrong and wrong is right. Protecting our children has become a major priority among parents. A teen in crisis raises that bar of protection because they are more vulnerable due to their shaky foundation.
With so much uncertainty in this volatile world, our teens are also fearful. We may believe their outrageous and risky behavior is coming from a tough interior, but this is not true. They feel hopeless. They think they are worthless. Their future seems bleak to them. They feel alone. In their minds, they don’t believe anyone loves them or cares about them. They too, also see the world changing with not much to look forward to. Continue reading