I Used To Hate Mother’s Day

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I used to hate Mother’s Day.  Did you hear that? “Used” to! I would see all of the mother’s surrounded by their smiling and laughing children of all ages giving honor to their mom.  These children would present signs, crafts, give gifts, and bestow beautiful words of love and respect onto their mother.

Me?  Nada!  I dreaded this once a year holiday.  Why? Because there were crises left and right, ongoing drama, heartless thanks, and a plethora of other problems toppled on each other.  Instead of feeling I just came out of a word entrenched spa enjoying the accolades of praise for being the best mom, I was instead left in tears, guilt, shame, hurt, and pain for being a mom to a teen with serious issues.  

I envied other moms.  I was jealous of how they spent time with their families enveloped by so much love it would burst like the Fourth of July fireworks.  Unlike that moment, I stayed in bed with the covers over my head wishing I could start life over. Did I say I hated Mother’s Day? Continue reading

Seasons

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In the past several months I have had to purge through life’s memories, pack tons of treasure troves, and prepare for a life change – moving from a large home to a small apartment.  Never had I realized the years of accumulation we had collected. For my husband, it was sixty years worth passed down from the generations before him. For me, collectibles and books were my passion through time.  

This season of change was not only overwhelming but exhausting in every way possible.  As parents of a struggling young adult now, challenges are still very fresh and new. Many of us see our kids grow up with crises and believe they will outgrow those moments of brokenness as they age.  That is not always the case.

I think of the parents whose children are still involved or addicted to drugs and alcohol.  Then there are the parents who have older teens and young adults chained by their eating disorders or sexual identity and porn issues.  What about the parents who find themselves back at square one with their child who has a mental illness or struggle with suicidal tendencies?   Continue reading

How to Keep Your Faith Tank Filled for the New Year

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I don’t know about you, but 2018 was NOT a good year for me and I am not alone.  Many are the ups and downs of having a teen or young adult in crisis.

This past year brought for me a child whose anxiety was higher than years in the past coupled with PTSD.  Depression and low self-esteem thoughts came next with multiple days of sleeplessness and frustration. Then there are the relationship complications with other children and before you know it, more obstacles come and you find yourself with not one dilemma but a quandary of them.

You try to guide your child through it, but some days you just want to throw your hands up in the air and say, “I’m done!”  To make matters more difficult, you have your own problems to deal with. A broken dishwasher, a broken microwave, a broken tooth, bills piling up, a spouse with health issues, a sick animal, car headaches, and the list just goes on and on.  

How can you stay hopeful when your tank of faith gets drained at every turn?  One source for me is the Word of God. In fact, it is the ONLY source that I need to go to and the only one which fills me for what I need every day.  I cannot continue on this parenting journey if my tank of faith and hope is empty and I have nothing to fill it.

So with that, I must be refilled every morning – with encouragement, hope, strength, joy, peace, and most of all faith, which is what carries me from day to day. Last year, I lost my vision of direction amongst the problems I was faced with.  They were mountains in which I could not see over or pass through. The main reason, I was too focused on them instead of the Lord who is our mountain mover.

This year, I am changing how I deal with our crises.  They will be head on with God as my armor. Here are some of the New Year resolutions on my list that I plan to keep, how about you? 

 

  1. Finish reading the entire book of the Bible.
  2. Highlight encouraging scriptures and place them in strategic places that will grab my attention and renew in my mind.
  3. Make a “Worry” box to write down my concerns, pray over them, put them in my box as a way to let God know I am giving them to Him to worry about and take care of instead of me.
  4. Strive to remind myself something positive each day instead of something negative.
  5. Read one book that is encouraging for parents – a devotional, a biography of an overcomer, etc…
  6. Reach out – meet with friends more often, connect with other hurting moms and pray together.
  7. Take care of myself – I bought a Fitbit to monitor my health and wellbeing.  
  8. Pray for someone else who is hurting.  Be their prayer support. Praying for others is another way to be blessed through your own circumstances and another avenue to build your faith.
  9. Find more mentors for your child to help them grow and heal so that the burden does not rely so heavily on you as parent.
  10. Pray, pray, pray, pray, and never stop praying.

 

Today, as the New Year has started, be encouraged.  Be hopeful! Be build up in your faith. God has it.  He is waiting for you to take hold of it. He continues to be our burden bearer. He never intended us to do it alone.  

So fill up your tank today! Happy New Year!

𝓢𝓽𝓪𝓬𝔂 𝓛𝓮𝓮

 

Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isaiah 40:30-31

 

Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23

 

He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!”  Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” Revelation 21:5

 

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Finding Hope This Holiday Season

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With one last decoration piece to go, my Christmas tree of bountiful ornaments would be embellished in beauty.  As I grabbed the heavily tarnished nail ornament in my hand, I stopped and gazed upon it silently in thought.

Previous Christmas’ were not happy ones for me. Shadowed by multiple crises with a hurting child, I didn’t know how to find freedom and peace through my journey of parenting.  

A depressed, suicidal daughter, living rebelliously and acting out with risky behaviors were my fixation during the holidays. How could I celebrate such a joyous occasion when I was struggling myself?

Pondering over the nail which lay in my palm,  I started to comprehend its meaning over my broken family.  Pushing back the tree branches to hang the ornament was like pushing back the curtains of time to Jesus’ birth.  

The Heavenly Father’s gift of His son was so miraculously planned out. He knew how we desperately needed a Savior for a fallen world, even our fallen, sinful, broken child.

As much as I appreciated the Christmas family traditions, buffet holiday foods, and plunder of presents under the tree, it is easy to lose our exuberance in rejoicing that a King, the One who gives salvation, was born for us and for all mankind which includes our hurting child.  Looking at this nail ornament and thinking of what Christ did for me revived my hope. 

What would life be like if I did not have hope of redemption for our family?  Jesus’ life and ultimately his death and resurrection is a lasting testimony of what He did on the cross to give us complete healing for our brokenness. This is something we need to be reminded of daily as we face our family crisis’.  Today I can be thankful for this hope, for this imparts to me a new faith to stay strong during my times of struggle in our parenting, as well as God’s affirmation that He has never forgotten us nor forsaken us. Praise God!   

May God reaffirm His love and devotion to you and your family this holiday season and help you find your joy amidst the difficult times.  

Merry Christmas!

Stacy