It’s hard us parents to see the dreams we have for our teens fading away when they are in crisis and are not doing what we had hoped for. We are in constant battle. Either keeping them alive, moving forward, or finding healing, this is what we are aiming for.
Sometimes we run into mountains or waters so deep that it is hard to stay afloat. And there are times when we are crying out for answers and nothing comes. What do you do then? TRUST!
God is the only Rock we can stand on, the only strength we can rely on. He is the ONLY one that has ways higher than ours, plans for the good of our teens who are hurting. He sees ALL. He knows ALL!
TRUST! That is all He is asking of us. It is in that trust we find hope. healing, clarity, faith, and TRUST!
Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act. Psalm 37:5
Your child is a mess. They have been in crisis after crisis, getting worse along the way. You’ve tried every avenue to help your teen, leaving you tired, weary, and frustrated. You have met a lot of opposition during the journey. In some cases, your teen’s crisis escalated as their behaviors became more risky and dangerous. For some of you, different treatment places didn’t help but maybe they have given you more turmoil for your family. Whatever the case, this story is for you. Meet some parents whose teen struggled with a few problems which catapulted into something bigger than they could handle. This is their story. I pray that you find a sense of hope in your own situation by seeking out more of The Envoy Group.
OUR STORY – THE START OF THE ENVOY GROUP
It’s been days, weeks, months, and for some of you…years. Still you wait. You wonder if God even hears you. You have prayed and prayed and now have come to a dreaded conclusion in your mind. You have started to doubt in God.
You imagine God lowering His head to listen to every word of desperation that comes out of your mouth. You beg God to please heal your son or daughter.
Did God not care? Did He find someone else to help instead of my broken family? Why is He making me wait so long to see healing? Continue reading
In the news recently was the mother who tried to buy a baby for her 14 year-old daughter who desperately wanted a child. Despite the fact of how very wrong this was, I did have some understanding of why this mother made the choices that she did.
When you see your child hurting, you as the parent only want the pain to go away. Maybe you have tried other methods to help erase the deep agony that your child is in. Not finding the way to ease their pain, you take matters into your own hands. Desperation can so easily lead to a distorted approach in finding healing.
You may be a parent whose child is so stressed out that they start to smoke cigarettes. You don’t want them to suffer the possible effects of cancer down the line so you look the other way after you mention other things that are less harmful, although illegal, as if giving permission without giving permission.
Then there’s the young boy who was caught looking at half nude women on the internet and you passed it off as the ‘coming of age’ and let it go. In the meanwhile, his curiosity becomes an obsession that grows into a full-blown porn addiction. You’ve talked to him many times about the issue but in the end, you give in and ignore the now massive problem and hope he grows out of it. Continue reading
You made a bucket list in your mind of all the things you want to do for yourself in life. Maybe it’s picking up an instrument that you’ve been aching to learn. Possibly, it’s a desire to write a fiction book based off of your life. Maybe your creative juices are flowing to paint that ocean scenery or mountaintop sunset that you viewed from your last vacation.
Unfortunately, no matter how hard you have tried, those dreams and aspirations are fading away before your eyes. You begin to wonder if you will ever be able to reach those goals that your heart has been set on for so long. Instead, your time and focus has been taken up by the needs of your teen or young adult in crisis. Maybe they have an addiction, a disorder, or a mental illness. Whatever that crisis is, it has become your crisis, and it keeps you from moving forward in your life.
As a parent to a teen that lived daily from crisis to crisis, my life’s goals and plans were almost always put to the side. In some cases, I had to say goodbye to those dreams completely. It seemed as if everything I wanted to do was being ripped away because of my teen’s issues. I loved my teen. I wanted so badly to see her heal, have victory, and experience freedom.
As time passed however, my responses to my teen’s crises were beginning to come out as angry and negative. My once loving attitude towards her was exchanged with bitterness and disappointment every time I heeded to her call for help. It finally came to a head when I yelled at God, “It’s not fair! Why can’t you just heal my teen so that I can live a normal life again?” Continue reading