You made a bucket list in your mind of all the things you want to do for yourself in life. Maybe it’s picking up an instrument that you’ve been aching to learn. Possibly, it’s a desire to write a fiction book based off of your life. Maybe your creative juices are flowing to paint that ocean scenery or mountaintop sunset that you viewed from your last vacation.
Unfortunately, no matter how hard you have tried, those dreams and aspirations are fading away before your eyes. You begin to wonder if you will ever be able to reach those goals that your heart has been set on for so long. Instead, your time and focus has been taken up by the needs of your teen or young adult in crisis. Maybe they have an addiction, a disorder, or a mental illness. Whatever that crisis is, it has become your crisis, and it keeps you from moving forward in your life.
As a parent to a teen that lived daily from crisis to crisis, my life’s goals and plans were almost always put to the side. In some cases, I had to say goodbye to those dreams completely. It seemed as if everything I wanted to do was being ripped away because of my teen’s issues. I loved my teen. I wanted so badly to see her heal, have victory, and experience freedom.
As time passed however, my responses to my teen’s crises were beginning to come out as angry and negative. My once loving attitude towards her was exchanged with bitterness and disappointment every time I heeded to her call for help. It finally came to a head when I yelled at God, “It’s not fair! Why can’t you just heal my teen so that I can live a normal life again?” Continue reading
I came across this article today written by Ashley Edwardson and was truly disturbed. I felt it was important to pass on because if considered to be a right, all children would be at risk.
Rights for Pedophiles
For many families who have a teen in crisis, the most common problem is the elephant in the room. Now for those who are not familiar with that term, it is in essence the metaphorical idiom to describe an obvious issue that no one wants to discuss. By pretending that it does not exist, you wouldn’t have to face it and deal with it.
In many homes across the world, there are families with a large elephant in their home. It is so big, that the thought of discussing it might destroy whatever family is hanging together by a thread.
That elephant could be a representative of an eating disorder, self-harm, addiction, gender issue,mental illness or disorder. It could be a plethora of things that are upsetting and hard to swallow. Continue reading
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This past week I was blindsided. It was supposed to be a joyous occasion but it quickly turned into a time of speechlessness, shock, and a heavy spirit.
The fact is, when you have teens and young adult children, they are bound to do something that rips at your heart. It makes you realize that no matter how hard you try to be a good parent and how much you love them, they will make choices that you never expected and leave your heart burdened with heaviness.
That was a something I have not become a stranger to. However, I have come to learn one very important lesson in all of this.
God knew all along. Continue reading