10 Parenting Goals for 2021 – Part 2

Find a Counselor – Kids hate counselors. Doesn’t matter their age whether they are a teen to a young adult, they all feel the same way. Why? First and foremost, the fact that the parents have picked them out is part of the reason.  They didn’t have a whole lot of say in the matter or get to be a part of the decision making as to “who” they would be spilling their guts to.  So…. it is important that they play an integral part in who their next counselor will be.  The best route to go is to pick 2 – 3 counselors, meet with them, then ask your child to whom they had a connection with (which makes counseling all the easier for everyone involved), and then make a choice from there.  P.S. – the child HAS to pick one of them.  They cannot opt for no one. 

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New Year’s Resolutions for the Hurting Parent

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Every year, friends, family, and co-workers talk about their New Year’s resolutions. Some of the favorites are losing weight, go on a long awaited trip, spend less money, and even go back to school.  When we are a parent with a child in crisis however, our goals fade and we lose ourselves in the chaos that surrounds us.  

Most of the time when we set goals, they are too big or take too long and so our hope and desires for them to be fulfilled become diminished.  We also lose site of those goals when we only make a list in our heads and never get it on the calendar. That is something I have often done with little success in reaching my goals.  

Adding to that difficulty is when your focus is so much on the needs of your child in crisis that we often forget about the care of ourselves. This is another area in which I badly lost my way to reach those goals.  This coming year, I chose to make ones that ARE reachable.  These goals I pray, will bring my life less stress, give me more rest, and to encourage as well as comfort me when I am confronted with something difficult.  So, here they are.  Maybe you can add a couple onto your list of goals for 2018. Continue reading

Starting Anew in 2017!

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For many of us parents with teens and young adults who struggle and are hurting, we look forward to leaving the past behind and starting anew on New Year’s Day.

This past year, for a few of my friends with teens and young adults were in crisis. They have had to weather the storms of drug addiction, fight for rights in programs, in court praying that the judge will show mercy, to their youth experiencing physical violence.

A common question to God often thought out loud is, “How much more can I take?” Continue reading