Father’s Day – A Journey of Love and Pain

As we all know, Father’s Day is Sunday. Social media is flooded with fathers posting fun-filled happy memories of the past and present with their sons and daughters.  However, not all fathers can rejoice and be glad.  There are many who are hurting, saddened, worried, and worn down by their child’s choices and dangerous behaviors and lifestyles.  How does one get through it? 

I could easily pass on a remedy of prayer, Bible reading, support groups, etc… Unfortunately, there are situations in which we try all of those things and yet our child goes deeper into turmoil and fears of death ponder our mind. 

There are fathers who have addicted children on heroin and other strong drugs.  There are fathers whose children are incarcerated.  There are fathers who don’t know where their child is and there are those who have a child battling mental illness with no hope on the horizon.  

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Hurts That Run Deep

Ouch!  Like the snap of a stretched rubber band that stings when it hits you, that is often the feeling you get when your child in crisis has hurt your heart. 

Most hurts are emotional than physical.  Either way, they can both be painful.  Hurts can also have a lasting effect on your relationship between you and your teen/young adult.  

Parents don’t ask or beg for it.  Like a punch to the stomach unexpectedly, they are taken by surprise with the aim more to the heart.  

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Peace Among Chaos

The New Year has begun and chaos is happening across our nation on top of chaos in a broken family’s home. Take heart my dear parent. God is STILL in control. Nothing is without His knowledge. He still reigns! He is sovereign! He is powerful! He has a plan, even for our family. He has NOT forsaken our nation and He has NOT forsaken our family. Take courage, be brave, hold on to your faith in Christ Jesus, the Healer of all hearts and giver of our salvation. Keep your eyes on the prize – Heaven bound. God will restore your family, in His time, and providence. Thank you Lord for Your faithfulness to us, especially during these critical times.

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Battling with a Rebellious Prodigal Child

 

We often hear of the story of the Prodigal son who rebelled and left his father to seek out his own independence with drinking, sex, gambling, and living the high life.  

Today, parents have prodigals who live in the home too. Take the case of one mom whose young adult son refuses to acknowledge his parent in the same room.  He spends hours on his phone or gaming console.  He exerts his independence through backtalking and disrespect of his mom and dad. He leaves the house and doesn’t tell anyone where he is going.  He comes back late and leaves telltale signs that he was out partying and most likely having sex.  The last thing he wants to hear is about God.

Then there is the daughter who is shut down emotionally and cuts her family out of her life.  She says nothing at the dinner table other than she is an atheist and doesn’t need to pray for her food, hides in her room all day, and announces that she can’t be around others in her family because they are just too toxic for her.  

Prodigals. You love them and you can’t stand their attitude at the same time. You wonder, “Where did I go wrong? My parenting wasn’t that horrible. Why are they being so ungrateful and rebellious?”  Continue reading

To The Escape Room I Go!

To The Escape Room I Go! - Anchor Of Promise

 

I admit it.  If I have the chance to hide from my teen, I would do it in a heartbeat.  There are just times in which I have to go to my escape room and lock the door.  

I hid there for many reasons.  When I kept myself from acting out against my own teen and regret my words or actions, my escape room was the place to go. Other reasons were to keep my sanity or not allow my teen to see me fall apart.  I went there for solitude, to help me think, and to let go of my own pain of being a parent to a child in constant crisis.   Continue reading