Moms across this nation are faced with a family in crisis – mainly their teen or young adult. That crisis comes in the form of addiction, mental illness, suicidal tendencies, eating disorders, and many more problematic issues.
Along with those crises, are tsunami size emotions. Moms are especially hit hard with these emotions because it is part of a mother’s make-up of who we are as a woman. God specifically made us that way so that we could connect more intimately with those around us, such as our children.
When we think of “mother” we think of words such as – compassionate, loving, forgiving, kind, and selfless. However, when a mother is confronted with a child in crisis, those descriptions change to a mother who is sad, angry, hurt, worried, and stressed. Combine all of those descriptions and emotions and you have a mother whose is fighting a major battle for her child’s life.
That battle for that mother uses special tools – Counseling, therapy, reading of His Word and PRAYER! It is hard, and tough with a lot of sweat and tears and also some insanity. Continue reading
One of the biggest frustrations parents have is when their teen/young adult child is unwilling to listen to sound wisdom. Even more frustrating is when your child is in crisis and thinks that their wisdom is more sound than yours.
Teens and young adults are wrapped up in their emotions, feelings, and urgency of the circumstances that surround them. This clouds the consequences of their choices and actions. Continue reading
It’s Mother’s Day! Flowers, candy, and a day off from cleaning and cooking. That is what many moms wish for. These are some of the things that a mother enjoys while the day is celebrated. Some families go all out. They give lavish retreats away from home, a day at the spa, or give praise through cards, phone calls, and social media to express their love for “Mom”.
However, being a “mom” of a teen in crisis brings about a very different kind of Mother’s Day. You see, teens who are hurting and struggling have moms who put themselves last on the list of receiving care. We also don’t always experience the benefits or rewards of adulation along with hugs and words of love and thankfulness. Continue reading
Ian was preparing for school when a behavioral issue popped up and was sent to his room. His emotional capacity was not able to decipher or understand the consequences of what he was about to do next.
Ian took his life at the age of ten. His mother would have never contemplated this chain of events. No parent suspects their child to take their life. Continue reading
When my daughter was nine, she would play on a game called Fantage. It was a cute cartoon game that encouraged fun, imagination, and pretend. They of course had parental controls in which you could oversee your child’s time on the game as well as how much contact they could have with others.
They were good at making sure curse words or any sexual innuendo did not take place. But kids as they are today, find ways to get around that despite how child-like this game is. With little chat bubbles, friends would follow each other around Fantage, playing games, meeting up with new pals, and buying the latest craze at the store with their ecoins.
One day however, a so-called new friend started to meet my daughter in the Fantage cartoon world and requested she go on another chat game without my knowledge. This new chat place had a video chat in which you could see a live person. That day changed my daughter’s life forever. Continue reading