The New Year has begun and chaos is happening across our nation on top of chaos in a broken family’s home. Take heart my dear parent. God is STILL in control. Nothing is without His knowledge. He still reigns! He is sovereign! He is powerful! He has a plan, even for our family. He has NOT forsaken our nation and He has NOT forsaken our family. Take courage, be brave, hold on to your faith in Christ Jesus, the Healer of all hearts and giver of our salvation. Keep your eyes on the prize – Heaven bound. God will restore your family, in His time, and providence. Thank you Lord for Your faithfulness to us, especially during these critical times.
We often hear of the story of the Prodigal son who rebelled and left his father to seek out his own independence with drinking, sex, gambling, and living the high life.
Today, parents have prodigals who live in the home too. Take the case of one mom whose young adult son refuses to acknowledge his parent in the same room. He spends hours on his phone or gaming console. He exerts his independence through backtalking and disrespect of his mom and dad. He leaves the house and doesn’t tell anyone where he is going. He comes back late and leaves telltale signs that he was out partying and most likely having sex. The last thing he wants to hear is about God.
Then there is the daughter who is shut down emotionally and cuts her family out of her life. She says nothing at the dinner table other than she is an atheist and doesn’t need to pray for her food, hides in her room all day, and announces that she can’t be around others in her family because they are just too toxic for her.
Prodigals. You love them and you can’t stand their attitude at the same time. You wonder, “Where did I go wrong? My parenting wasn’t that horrible. Why are they being so ungrateful and rebellious?” Continue reading →
I admit it. If I have the chance to hide from my teen, I would do it in a heartbeat. There are just times in which I have to go to my escape room and lock the door.
I hid there for many reasons. When I kept myself from acting out against my own teen and regret my words or actions, my escape room was the place to go. Other reasons were to keep my sanity or not allow my teen to see me fall apart. I went there for solitude, to help me think, and to let go of my own pain of being a parent to a child in constant crisis. Continue reading →
As many know, I just published a devotional for parents with teens in crisis. One of the thoughts of those reading my book was, “I guess her kids are doing great and out of their problems.”
Just need to say this… The answer to that is “No!” They are still struggling and dealing with a lot of issues. Some are extremely serious and other problems will need more time to heal.
The point is this…the issues I faced in the past are very different in how I face them today. Why? Throughout the years while my children were hurting and in pain, I was a parent who was broken too. I carried guilt, shame, discouragement, hopelessness, and many other emotions too heavy for a parent to be burdened with. I also struggled with chronic depression and was not in a healthy place. Continue reading →