As we all know, Father’s Day is Sunday. Social media is flooded with fathers posting fun-filled happy memories of the past and present with their sons and daughters. However, not all fathers can rejoice and be glad. There are many who are hurting, saddened, worried, and worn down by their child’s choices and dangerous behaviors and lifestyles. How does one get through it?
I could easily pass on a remedy of prayer, Bible reading, support groups, etc… Unfortunately, there are situations in which we try all of those things and yet our child goes deeper into turmoil and fears of death ponder our mind.
There are fathers who have addicted children on heroin and other strong drugs. There are fathers whose children are incarcerated. There are fathers who don’t know where their child is and there are those who have a child battling mental illness with no hope on the horizon.
Oh that wonderful word – REBELLION. You beg and plead for your child to change their ways; Stop smoking! Stop drinking! Stop hanging out with the wrong kids! Stop getting into trouble with the law! Stop, Stop, STOP!!!
Kids live off of it and you want to do everything in your power to stop that rebellion. But the fact is, you can’t. I have cried my eyes over my daughter’s rebellious behavior to no avail. Some parents get desperate and find ways to discipline them into change. They remove their precious treasures like the phone, sports, and friends. They bribe them with money, games, trips, and so on. You name it, parents have tried it. Continue reading →
You love Christmas. You sing and reminisce through the songs, enjoy the smell of baked goodies in the oven and having a hot drink. You are snuggled in your comfy chair, relaxed for the movie of White Christmas. You look over at the decorated Christmas tree and presents all prepared under the tree. Time to close your eyes and giggle over the funny stories and memories of Christmas past. Nope, there are no broken family members in your household.
A dear friend of mine recently sent me an email letter discussing the very famous saying, “God never gives you more than what you can handle.”
So the question is, “Does God give you more than what you can handle?”
My daughter and I had this very on topic discussion recently. As a young adult with PTSD, anxiety disorder, depression, mild mood disorder, and CAPD along with short term memory issues, every problem that surfaced was magnified. That is how teens and young adults view their problems too When difficult times come their way and they can’t handle it, they find that they failed God or God is punishing them as though they did not have enough faith to get through their circumstances.
Telling our child that God never gives them more than what they can handle, sets them up for disaster. How? When a teen is faced with insurmountable odds and they have tried everything in their mind to survive it, they come to the conclusion that they are too weak to conquer anything and will give up. This is especially true for a teen who struggles with deep depression and is suicidal. Continue reading →