Our 30 Day Challenge

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Music. It can directly impact your teen and their crisis. In fact, it can also worsen their crisis to the extent of real harm and even death.

When my teen was going through her depression, it wasn’t the normal sad day that many of us have. It came with suicidal ideology and tendencies. She was also an avid music listener. It was either the lyrics or the beat that drew her into the world of particular songs that she felt related to her.

Many of these song lyrics talked about death, sadness, loneliness, pain, and hurt with no hope. I remember one particular song she had heard that spoke about the death of their long time love. It affected the person who was singing it to the point of themselves having this personal discussion as to whether or not to join their loved one who couldn’t handle life anymore. Continue reading

It’s OKAY to Talk About Your Feelings

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Does your teen know it’s okay to talk about the emotions they have when they feel lost, depressed, sad, and hopeless?

On July 31, rugby player Luke Ambler said this, “My brother-in-law killed himself back in April and it was completely out of the blue.”

Because it left his family devastated, he felt that something needed to be done.  So he created the Andy’s Man Club in the United Kingdom.

Wanting other men to not be afraid to talk about their feelings or about suicide, he took a selfie of himself using the OK hand symbol to let others know that it IS okay to talk about how you feel.

According to the CDC, males take their own lives at nearly four times the rate of females and represent 77.9% of all suicides (2015 Suicide Data Sheet).

This is partially due to the fact that young boys/men don’t normally share their feelings.  In fact, they feel uncomfortable in doing so.  To teens/young men, showing emotions such as sadness or depression is a sign of weakness.  Women on the other hand, are encouraged to share their feelings and how crying or sadness is acceptable.

Fathers and men of humbleness and strength can change this attitude.  They can encourage that talking about their struggles, their weaknesses, and their sadness is a part of empowering them.  It releases the pent up emotional toll that they have been carrying.  With a message like this being shared by a man, that gives young male teens and men the permission to share their hurts and pain without shame.

This is the first big step in curbing suicidal tendencies.  With Suicide Prevention this week, let’s spread the news that YES! It’s OKAY to talk about your emotions, feelings, struggles, hurts and pain.

You Are Not Alone

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I would like to promote Dena Yohe’s book, “You Are Not Alone” which will be released on July 19th, 2016.    Dena and her husband have been blogging friends that I have come to know and respect for the last several years.  We have often shared our posts with each other so that we could encourage our readers. Our missions are one of the same – to help parents with struggling children who are hurting and in crisis.

Dena understands this so well.  Having a daughter who was suicidal, dealing with mental illness and addiction of self-harm among a plethora of other issues, Dena and her husband prayed for God to help their broken daughter.  God heard those prayers and today their daughter, Renee, is a survivor.

Because of Renee’s past destructive life, her friends started a non-profit organization called, To Write Love On Her Arms. Renee’s life was also portrayed in last year’s 2015 Sony Pictures release by the same name.

To order You Are Not Alone, you can go Hope For Hurting Parents website and find the link on the right of their page to pre-order the book.




The Pro-Anorexia Websites That Are Killing Your Teen

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It is hard to believe that there are actually websites that encourage anorexia and bulimia.  Sadly, it is true.  The dangers of these websites influence these eating disorders by chat rooms, support groups, and resources on how to stay ultra thin.  To learn more about this issue, click on the post.

“Me Before You” Movie – Suicide Glamorized for Disabled

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When I first saw the previews for “Me Before You” movie, the plot or point of it was not really defined.  Upon further investigation, it left me disturbed by its encouraging romantic ideology that suicide is beautiful and loving for the disabled.

The dictionary definition of disabled is as follows:   incapacitated by illness or injury; also :  physically or mentally impaired in a way that substantially limits activity especially in relation to employment or education.

This definition means differently in other countries.  For example, in Belgium, a disability could mean having depression, an eating disorder, or some other malady that could cause doctors, government and even parents justification for assisted euthanasia.  These types of disabilities can be helped and even cured.

Belgium Signs Child Euthanasia Bill into Law Continue reading