Every other day, I have been tracking the news story of Elizabeth Thomas, the young teen who was kidnapped by her teacher Tad Cummins from Tennessee.
Parents across the country are shocked that this could have happened. The term “grooming” is a word often used when an adult figure manipulates, deceives, and earns the trust of the victim through various forms of coercion.
Sadly, more and more authority figures are “grooming” young teens at their most vulnerable times. It can happen in schools, churches, and sports teams. Many have questioned or made statements about Elizabeth Thomas such as, “She chose to be with him,” or “She can run away.” However, they do not understand the psychological control this teacher has over her that started a long time ago under the guise of a teacher mentoring a student in school.
Teens don’t just jump into a relationship with someone older. There are many factors when combined set the perfect stage for the grooming of the victim.
So what types of teens are targeted for grooming? Continue reading
Everyone is in the Easter holiday spirit. It’s that time and season in which you bring out all of the spring décor and clothing. As you rip into the closet or boxes in the basement, there you find tucked away in the corner is your child’s Easter basket. Memories take you back to when you filled it to the brim with all sorts of goodies for your little children every year for the Easter holiday. It looks disheveled and old now with colored shredded grass poking through the weaved basket. As you gaze upon it, tears begin to flow. Those were the happy days. You didn’t have a child in crisis back then like you do now. Continue reading
How many times do you think you should have been fired from your job as a parent? Your teen is out of control, getting in trouble or having a meltdown. You step in to pull it back together but find yourself making things worse. Maybe you added to their problems. Maybe you gave the wrong guidance. Maybe you weren’t there when they needed you the most.
We can beat ourselves up over and over and be left with extreme guilt, shame, and a teen in crisis like ever before. You say to yourself the following words… Continue reading
A while back I spoke with a young woman whose daughter was in a program appointed by the court. Her daughter would be staying in the program for about a year. This was really hard on the mom but if the program was going to help her daughter, then she would do her best to be strong and support her child while they finished out the year being separated.
Being away from her daughter was going to be very difficult. However, her hopes and desires for her daughter would be for her to succeed from the program with improved behavior and get the therapy that she so desperately needed. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long in which this mother began to quickly understand the undermining of her authority by those in the program. Continue reading
Did you reach the end of your rope in rescuing your teen? Have you prayed or begged God to fix your child to what you thought was best for them? Was there a time in which your teen’s life was coming together only to turn around and get redirected in the opposite direction?
I have gone through all of those situations and guess what I learned?
There was nothing that I could do. That’s right. I couldn’t change the circumstances. I couldn’t figure out the plans. I had exhausted myself from worry and fear and tried everything to no avail.
I had poured out my heart and life to God for every situation and crisis with no change as a result?
It wasn’t until I learned this secret that I understood why. Continue reading