Have you ever felt numb and dead inside? Maybe it was an incident that left you shocked, bewildered, and speechless. Quite possibly, a situation arose with your teen or young adult that shattered your dreams for them. Perhaps your child requires so much of your energy, thinking, and emotions, you are left exhausted with nothing more to give. Maybe they caused you pain and your response was to just shutdown.
I have been there. Sometimes, I even visit there from time to time. I often wonder to myself why I was left with so many burdens to carry because of my child in crisis. From a teen to a young adult now, some of those crises enlarged or new ones evolved. Some of those struggles were self-inflicted while others were not.
During my years of being a parent of a teen and young adult in crisis, I have delved many times into the world of great mourning.
Mourning can mean many different things to parents. It can be an extreme loss such as the death of a child through addiction. It could be through the painful emotional death of a child who rejected their own gender to be another. Maybe it is the aching of seeing your deeply depressed and suicidal child talk only of death and not caring about anyone or anything else this life has to offer. Continue reading →
I admit it. If I have the chance to hide from my teen, I would do it in a heartbeat. There are just times in which I have to go to my escape room and lock the door.
I hid there for many reasons. When I kept myself from acting out against my own teen and regret my words or actions, my escape room was the place to go. Other reasons were to keep my sanity or not allow my teen to see me fall apart. I went there for solitude, to help me think, and to let go of my own pain of being a parent to a child in constant crisis. Continue reading →
Families stuck in their homes. Four walls. No personal room to breathe and dealing with a teen or young adult in crisis. Yikes! How in the world as a parent am I going to get through this?
Well, we can go under or rise above it. Today, I rise above it. How? First pray! You cannot successfully survive unless you put God and prayer first. That’s not a thought. This is imperative if you want to get through the coming days and weeks.
So let me get frank. I have a daughter with multiple issues. PTSD, CAPD, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Short Term Memory issues, and the list goes on. I have survived ten years with these problems. They were much worse than what they are now. In fact, suicidal ideology, sub-culture identity issues, self-harm, and a few others were added into that mix many years ago.
I am amazed in my tenacity and perseverance that kept me going when there were many times I struggled with the idea of giving up. I was tired, worn, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and filled with shame as a parent. Continue reading →
Can you imagine a phone call that could change your life forever and shatter your dreams and hopes for your child? Can you imagine your world being rocked apart leaving you shocked, bewildered, numb, scared, and a plethora of other emotions that have you speechless?
Meet Shonda. She received one of those phone calls after her son Stephen was arrested. This wasn’t just a petty crime. This was much more serious. Murder. Continue reading →