Finding Hope This Holiday Season

Finding Hope This Holiday Season - Anchor Of Promise

With one last decoration piece to go, my Christmas tree of bountiful ornaments would be embellished in beauty.  As I grabbed the heavily tarnished nail ornament in my hand, I stopped and gazed upon it silently in thought.

Previous Christmas’ were not happy ones for me. Shadowed by multiple crises with a hurting child, I didn’t know how to find freedom and peace through my journey of parenting.  

A depressed, suicidal daughter, living rebelliously and acting out with risky behaviors were my fixation during the holidays. How could I celebrate such a joyous occasion when I was struggling myself?

Pondering over the nail which lay in my palm,  I started to comprehend its meaning over my broken family.  Pushing back the tree branches to hang the ornament was like pushing back the curtains of time to Jesus’ birth.  

The Heavenly Father’s gift of His son was so miraculously planned out. He knew how we desperately needed a Savior for a fallen world, even our fallen, sinful, broken child.

As much as I appreciated the Christmas family traditions, buffet holiday foods, and plunder of presents under the tree, it is easy to lose our exuberance in rejoicing that a King, the One who gives salvation, was born for us and for all mankind which includes our hurting child.  Looking at this nail ornament and thinking of what Christ did for me revived my hope. 

What would life be like if I did not have hope of redemption for our family?  Jesus’ life and ultimately his death and resurrection is a lasting testimony of what He did on the cross to give us complete healing for our brokenness. This is something we need to be reminded of daily as we face our family crisis’.  Today I can be thankful for this hope, for this imparts to me a new faith to stay strong during my times of struggle in our parenting, as well as God’s affirmation that He has never forgotten us nor forsaken us. Praise God!   

May God reaffirm His love and devotion to you and your family this holiday season and help you find your joy amidst the difficult times.  

Merry Christmas!

Stacy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Give Thanks!

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Last minute shopping at the store, you lay all the items out on the table, and try to figure your preparations for Thanksgiving dinner.  This is the last thing you want to be doing.  You’d rather climb into bed under the covers and watch an old time goodie on the TV. Wouldn’t that be a nice distraction?  This would certainly take your mind off of the reality that you have a broken child and you don’t know how to fix them as you get through the holidays.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says,  Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Did God truly understand how hard it is to rejoice and be thankful with a teen or young adult in crisis?  Did God get the memo that we are tired, weary, and hurting over our wayward child?  Does He comprehend the magnitude of the pain we as parents have suffered because of the destructive choices our kids make?

Now certainly God is not asking us to have frozen smiling faces throughout the day.  However, we are not to look sullen and depressed when God has our back and is looking out for us.  He cares about our every worry, fear, sadness, and other emotions we are feeling at this time.

Jesus knows about the ills of our teen or young adult. This is why God wants to carry our burdens and encourages us to find joy in His presence.  By praying continually, our communication of intimacy with the Lord is what gives us the strength, peace, and comfort during our trials with our children. That is where we find His faithfulness too.  As I awoke this morning I began to sing the hymn “Great is Thy Faithfulness.”

Great is thy faithfulness, great is thy faithfulness, morning by morning new mercies I see.  All I have needed thy hand hath provided.  Great is thy faithfulness, Lord unto thee. (Hymn by Thomas Chisholm)

So today, remember God’s goodness for what He has done for you and what He will continue to do.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Stacy Lee

 

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I Have Not Forgotten You

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As many of you know, I have not been as active as I would have liked on my blog. There have been many excuses, mainly one, that has kept me from keeping up to date with blog posts.  

The biggest reason is the publication of my first book, Turn the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis.  A long time coming, I am finally seeing the light of it being put to print. Book launch will be early spring 2019.

The devotions in this book relate to my emotional rollercoaster ride as a parent when my daughter was going through many crises.  For many parents, crises have focused on one or two issues such as a disorder, addiction, a mental illness, and so forth. For our family, mainly our daughter, there were too many issues to even count over a period of 15 years.  

Yes, I had a lot of emotional turbulence which kept me quite alone.  The good news though, is that each year, more resources, support, and one on one help is now available.  However, it doesn’t always take away the feeling of being alone when you are going through your tsunami storms of life.  

For me, I felt battered by every wave that hit us.  If I am feeling this way, I’m sure other parents are too.  Those thoughts persuaded me (along with others) to start journaling.  I had no idea my journaling would turn into writing a book about it.

With lots of prayer, encouragement, and guidance from great authors, agents, publishers, family, and friends, the book was born.  

Thank you for being so patient with me in not receiving weekly posts.  I will definitely change that in the coming weeks. In the meantime, please pray for the finishing edits and touches on the book.  This book was written for you.

 

Happy Autumn Blessings!

Stacy Lee

 

 

 

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Father’s Day Letter From a Hurting Teen

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Keep praying Dads!  Your teen or young adult will one day come back and thank you too for never giving up on them.  This dad knows it.  There is HOPE!  Keep your faith in God as you continue to lift up your child to Him.  And thank you to this Dad for sharing this letter with Anchor Of Promise.  Happy Father’s Day!

New Year’s Resolutions for the Hurting Parent

New Years Resolutions for the Hurting Parent - Anchor Of Promise

 

Every year, friends, family, and co-workers talk about their New Year’s resolutions. Some of the favorites are losing weight, go on a long awaited trip, spend less money, and even go back to school.  When we are a parent with a child in crisis however, our goals fade and we lose ourselves in the chaos that surrounds us.  

Most of the time when we set goals, they are too big or take too long and so our hope and desires for them to be fulfilled become diminished.  We also lose site of those goals when we only make a list in our heads and never get it on the calendar. That is something I have often done with little success in reaching my goals.  

Adding to that difficulty is when your focus is so much on the needs of your child in crisis that we often forget about the care of ourselves. This is another area in which I badly lost my way to reach those goals.  This coming year, I chose to make ones that ARE reachable.  These goals I pray, will bring my life less stress, give me more rest, and to encourage as well as comfort me when I am confronted with something difficult.  So, here they are.  Maybe you can add a couple onto your list of goals for 2018. Continue reading