She was 16, pregnant, and involved in a relationship with someone in their twenties. When asked why she would be with a man who obviously didn’t care about her, all she could say was, “I could never leave him. I love him. Yes, he has hit me. But I’m okay with that.”
The young man was sweet and caring. He would do anything for the girl he loved. However, he also was willing to allow her to hit him, curse him, threaten him, emotionally manipulate, and humiliate him in private and in public. Yet, his love for her would remain. Continue reading
Everyone is in the Easter holiday spirit. It’s that time and season in which you bring out all of the spring décor and clothing. As you rip into the closet or boxes in the basement, there you find tucked away in the corner is your child’s Easter basket. Memories take you back to when you filled it to the brim with all sorts of goodies for your little children every year for the Easter holiday. It looks disheveled and old now with colored shredded grass poking through the weaved basket. As you gaze upon it, tears begin to flow. Those were the happy days. You didn’t have a child in crisis back then like you do now. Continue reading
How many times do you think you should have been fired from your job as a parent? Your teen is out of control, getting in trouble or having a meltdown. You step in to pull it back together but find yourself making things worse. Maybe you added to their problems. Maybe you gave the wrong guidance. Maybe you weren’t there when they needed you the most.
We can beat ourselves up over and over and be left with extreme guilt, shame, and a teen in crisis like ever before. You say to yourself the following words… Continue reading
Years ago I watched the movie called, “The Impossible”. It was based on the true story of a family engulfed in the waters of a large tsunami in Thailand. Confronted with unimaginable obstacles, the parents were desperate to find their children and each other. They would not give up no matter the cost. The physical, mental, and emotional waves of agony from their circumstances would cause any parent to be fearful, distressed and in crisis.
Today, there are waves of crisis pulling many parents under through their hurting teen. In the eyes of the parent, their problems look too big and impossible to change for the better. These types of crises vary from family to family: suicidal attempts, mental illness, drug overdose, self-harming, risky behaviors, running away, etc… Continue reading
Did you reach the end of your rope in rescuing your teen? Have you prayed or begged God to fix your child to what you thought was best for them? Was there a time in which your teen’s life was coming together only to turn around and get redirected in the opposite direction?
I have gone through all of those situations and guess what I learned?
There was nothing that I could do. That’s right. I couldn’t change the circumstances. I couldn’t figure out the plans. I had exhausted myself from worry and fear and tried everything to no avail.
I had poured out my heart and life to God for every situation and crisis with no change as a result?
It wasn’t until I learned this secret that I understood why. Continue reading