Families stuck in their homes. Four walls. No personal room to breathe and dealing with a teen or young adult in crisis. Yikes! How in the world as a parent am I going to get through this?
Well, we can go under or rise above it. Today, I rise above it. How? First pray! You cannot successfully survive unless you put God and prayer first. That’s not a thought. This is imperative if you want to get through the coming days and weeks.
So let me get frank. I have a daughter with multiple issues. PTSD, CAPD, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Short Term Memory issues, and the list goes on. I have survived ten years with these problems. They were much worse than what they are now. In fact, suicidal ideology, sub-culture identity issues, self-harm, and a few others were added into that mix many years ago.
I am amazed in my tenacity and perseverance that kept me going when there were many times I struggled with the idea of giving up. I was tired, worn, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and filled with shame as a parent. Continue reading
May this New Year of 2020 be the beginning of healing broken hearts in my family. As I ask in prayer for restoration of my troubled child as well as for my own spirit, may we receive above and beyond rest and peace during our journey despite any chaos that comes our way.
As we seek Your guidance and wisdom, may Your Word penetrate our soul as well as our child who is wayward. As our child seeks the things of the world to heal their own heart, may You redirect them back to You and show them Your love, comfort, and freedom through Christ Jesus. In Him only, they will find release from their pain and hurt as well as be delivered from the chains that bind them.
When we search for answers through You, let the doors of opportunity and blessings be bestowed on our family. For You are our true answer for all of our needs. There is nothing outside of your realm or power that cannot meet us where we are at in this moment of time.
Let 2020 be the year in which our lives are changed, renewed, restored, and set free. Let us as parents be encouraged with a renewed hope, faith, strength, and victory as we travel the road of parenting a child in crisis. Amen!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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As many know, I just published a devotional for parents with teens in crisis. One of the thoughts of those reading my book was, “I guess her kids are doing great and out of their problems.”
Just need to say this… The answer to that is “No!” They are still struggling and dealing with a lot of issues. Some are extremely serious and other problems will need more time to heal.
The point is this…the issues I faced in the past are very different in how I face them today. Why? Throughout the years while my children were hurting and in pain, I was a parent who was broken too. I carried guilt, shame, discouragement, hopelessness, and many other emotions too heavy for a parent to be burdened with. I also struggled with chronic depression and was not in a healthy place. Continue reading
Five years of God leading me to write a book, it has now come to fruition. My prayer for you dear parent, is that you will find hope and encouragement in this devotional as you journey through your emotional turbulent storms with your teen/young adult. To learn more of where to get this devotional – Turning the Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents with Teens in Crisis
Today we are going to meet Kathy. She shares her story about the challenges that came in her life through adoption. Maybe you will find your story within hers. May you also find hope and encouragement too.
Adoption has been a true dear to the heart passion for you and your husband. You have adopted four times domestically and internationally. What were the ages of your children when you adopted them?
Our first son was a domestic adoption and he was 3 days old, next daughter was International adoption and she was 23 months, then another international adoption and he was 16 months, our youngest daughter we adopted as a domestic adoption at 9years, 11 months old.
Certain adoptions pose different challenges such as age range, living in an orphanage or foster home and even second chance adoptions. What challenges were you faced with?
I think all of my children have had many challenges and still continue into adulthood. My daughter adopted from Ukraine was institutionalized from birth. She was diagnosed with emotional deprivation. She was unable to give or receive affection for her first year, and her emotions were always guarded, and she continues to struggle to this day. She has struggled with making deep, lasting, trusting relationships. My boys both had issues related to delays in learning. There is no way to know if there was a direct correlation to their adoptions but I imagine so. Our daughter who was adopted at 9years 11 months, as an interrupted adoption, we were the second family that had adopted her since she was brought to America from Russia when she was 5 years old. Her primary diagnosis was attachment disorder. She was put in a Russian orphanage at age 4, adopted and brought to America at age 5, was treated for attachment disorder, and the family felt as though they were no longer able to handle the challenges of keeping her in their home. They had a list of issues that they claimed were were so severe that they had made a decision to have her institutionalized in the state the family was living. We intervened and adopted her. We have had many challenges in parenting her. I could write a book with her challenges alone. I think another challenge for adoptive children that is greater than for biological children is the question of identity-Who am
Adoptive children typically don’t look like anyone else in the family – it becomes obvious to them at a young age that they don’t fit like biological children. My older son had a lot of interest in knowing things about his biological parents. Sometimes information about an adoptive child’s biological parents leaves them feeling disappointed as often the parents have lived a less than praiseworthy life, which was the case in 3 out of my 4 children. With my kids we tried to steer them to God. Their essential identity is found in what God says about them. Point them to Christ. Continue reading