Have you ever felt numb and dead inside? Maybe it was an incident that left you shocked, bewildered, and speechless. Quite possibly, a situation arose with your teen or young adult that shattered your dreams for them. Perhaps your child requires so much of your energy, thinking, and emotions, you are left exhausted with nothing more to give. Maybe they caused you pain and your response was to just shutdown.
I have been there. Sometimes, I even visit there from time to time. I often wonder to myself why I was left with so many burdens to carry because of my child in crisis. From a teen to a young adult now, some of those crises enlarged or new ones evolved. Some of those struggles were self-inflicted while others were not.
Families stuck in their homes. Four walls. No personal room to breathe and dealing with a teen or young adult in crisis. Yikes! How in the world as a parent am I going to get through this?
Well, we can go under or rise above it. Today, I rise above it. How? First pray! You cannot successfully survive unless you put God and prayer first. That’s not a thought. This is imperative if you want to get through the coming days and weeks.
So let me get frank. I have a daughter with multiple issues. PTSD, CAPD, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Short Term Memory issues, and the list goes on. I have survived ten years with these problems. They were much worse than what they are now. In fact, suicidal ideology, sub-culture identity issues, self-harm, and a few others were added into that mix many years ago.
I am amazed in my tenacity and perseverance that kept me going when there were many times I struggled with the idea of giving up. I was tired, worn, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and filled with shame as a parent. Continue reading →
May this New Year of 2020 be the beginning of healing broken hearts in my family. As I ask in prayer for restoration of my troubled child as well as for my own spirit, may we receive above and beyond rest and peace during our journey despite any chaos that comes our way.
As we seek Your guidance and wisdom, may Your Word penetrate our soul as well as our child who is wayward. As our child seeks the things of the world to heal their own heart, may You redirect them back to You and show them Your love, comfort, and freedom through Christ Jesus. In Him only, they will find release from their pain and hurt as well as be delivered from the chains that bind them.
When we search for answers through You, let the doors of opportunity and blessings be bestowed on our family. For You are our true answer for all of our needs. There is nothing outside of your realm or power that cannot meet us where we are at in this moment of time.
Let 2020 be the year in which our lives are changed, renewed, restored, and set free. Let us as parents be encouraged with a renewed hope, faith, strength, and victory as we travel the road of parenting a child in crisis. Amen!
As many know, I just published a devotional for parents with teens in crisis. One of the thoughts of those reading my book was, “I guess her kids are doing great and out of their problems.”
Just need to say this… The answer to that is “No!” They are still struggling and dealing with a lot of issues. Some are extremely serious and other problems will need more time to heal.
The point is this…the issues I faced in the past are very different in how I face them today. Why? Throughout the years while my children were hurting and in pain, I was a parent who was broken too. I carried guilt, shame, discouragement, hopelessness, and many other emotions too heavy for a parent to be burdened with. I also struggled with chronic depression and was not in a healthy place. Continue reading →