There is a silent epidemic happening in our country of young teens, most specifically male youths. I call it silent because you don’t always see it. It is often hidden from others. In fact, it hides behind a facade that everything is okay, when in reality, something is brewing.
Here are some prime examples of this silent epidemic.
17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis killed 10 people in Santa Fe High School – he was supposedly bullied and rejected by a girl that he liked. Noted as being quiet and to himself.
Nikolas Cruz slaughtered at least 17 students at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas HS – a loner, supposedly had impulse issues, was bullied, had major losses in his life with the death of his parents.
A 15-year-old teen with the help of two friends, strangled and stabbed his mother to death in Maine because they moved.
16 year-old beats friend to death with baseball bat over jealousy of a girl he liked.
This silent epidemic is called Anger. It’s an emotion that is in each and every one of us. This includes growth spurting hormonal teenagers. Most teens express their anger through yelling, slamming doors, running off, or finding a place to be alone for hours. Those types of responses are expected. However, for some teens, their anger differs. Their anger lingers and builds quietly, layer upon layer, with no filters or boundaries in place. It lays dormant inside until an event triggers a volcanic eruption of violence that knows no limits. Continue reading
There is a common thread that unites many parents of teens today affected with mental illness. This thread is the unwillingness or refusal by teens to take medication for their mental impairment.
It is frustrating, scary and overwhelming. How can you help your teen when all they do is battle you? You beg, plead, bribe, or threaten in every way for them to take their medicine. None of it works.
So what does work? There is only one place to get that answer – your teen.
Now you may think the only response you are going to get from your teen is the word, “No!” After all, that is a common word you have been confronted with daily. Just because they give a negative answer does not mean that teens want to live in a life of mental confusion. They truly want what every other teen has – normalcy or free of illness. Continue reading
Years ago I watched the movie called, “The Impossible”. It was based on the true story of a family engulfed in the waters of a large tsunami in Thailand. Confronted with unimaginable obstacles, the parents were desperate to find their children and each other. They would not give up no matter the cost. The physical, mental, and emotional waves of agony from their circumstances would cause any parent to be fearful, distressed and in crisis.
Today, there are waves of crisis pulling many parents under through their hurting teen. In the eyes of the parent, their problems look too big and impossible to change for the better. These types of crises vary from family to family: suicidal attempts, mental illness, drug overdose, self-harming, risky behaviors, running away, etc… Continue reading
Someone once told me several years ago that I shouldn’t be as involved in my teen’s life and to let them make their own decisions and mistakes.
I partially agreed. You can say to most parents that letting your kids make their own mistakes is a good thing. It teaches them many valuable lessons.
However, if you have a teen with a mental illness, a debilitating disorder, or a teen who has an addiction, you should never accept that advice.
When a teen is in crisis, they have many strikes against them. Here are just two.
- Their comprehending and reasoning skills are not fully developed yet as a teen.
- They are more prone to influences that encourage them to act upon risky behavior that is harmful.
Your child is a mess. They have been in crisis after crisis, getting worse along the way. You’ve tried every avenue to help your teen, leaving you tired, weary, and frustrated. You have met a lot of opposition during the journey. In some cases, your teen’s crisis escalated as their behaviors became more risky and dangerous. For some of you, different treatment places didn’t help but maybe they have given you more turmoil for your family. Whatever the case, this story is for you. Meet some parents whose teen struggled with a few problems which catapulted into something bigger than they could handle. This is their story. I pray that you find a sense of hope in your own situation by seeking out more of The Envoy Group.
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