When I was growing up, I was not very close to my father. In fact, as I got older in my teen years, my relationship was almost non-existent. We rarely spoke. Although I badly wanted to have a relationship with him, part of the problem was due to the fact that he was an only child. He also experienced the loss of his mother at the age of twelve and the rejection of his own father soon after that loss.
Needless to say, he was not given a good fatherly image nor was he able to truly deal with all the heavy baggage he carried as he aged. Continue reading
She was 16, pregnant, and involved in a relationship with someone in their twenties. When asked why she would be with a man who obviously didn’t care about her, all she could say was, “I could never leave him. I love him. Yes, he has hit me. But I’m okay with that.”
The young man was sweet and caring. He would do anything for the girl he loved. However, he also was willing to allow her to hit him, curse him, threaten him, emotionally manipulate, and humiliate him in private and in public. Yet, his love for her would remain. Continue reading
How many times do you think you should have been fired from your job as a parent? Your teen is out of control, getting in trouble or having a meltdown. You step in to pull it back together but find yourself making things worse. Maybe you added to their problems. Maybe you gave the wrong guidance. Maybe you weren’t there when they needed you the most.
We can beat ourselves up over and over and be left with extreme guilt, shame, and a teen in crisis like ever before. You say to yourself the following words… Continue reading
Did you reach the end of your rope in rescuing your teen? Have you prayed or begged God to fix your child to what you thought was best for them? Was there a time in which your teen’s life was coming together only to turn around and get redirected in the opposite direction?
I have gone through all of those situations and guess what I learned?
There was nothing that I could do. That’s right. I couldn’t change the circumstances. I couldn’t figure out the plans. I had exhausted myself from worry and fear and tried everything to no avail.
I had poured out my heart and life to God for every situation and crisis with no change as a result?
It wasn’t until I learned this secret that I understood why. Continue reading
In the past six months I have had to travel. Most of my stops have been to North Jersey. This has given me a tremendous amount of time driving in complete silence.
I wish my travels took me on rural country roads to digest the scenery around me. Unfortunately, I don’t always get to pick the roads towards my destination. Instead, it is a paved road surrounded on each side with other travelers. Continue reading