Being Thankful With a Child in Crisis

A time of thanksgiving and reflection is once again upon us. However, this year it comes with many challenges. Not only are we dealing with a national pandemic, but there is the added unresolved election, unemployment, and the school system in shambles.

If that weren’t the tip of the iceberg, you have a teen or young adult in crisis as well. How in the world can we lift up our heads during this holiday season and find the words to be thankful?

My youngest is still broken. She is still filled with hurt and pain and struggles every day with some serious issues. There are days that I wonder and ask God, “When will you heal her, when will I not have to worry anymore, when can I finally live a normal life?”

Well, here’s the kicker. Life will never be normal. Every day, I am thankful that she made it through another day. I am thankful that despite the many hardships and disappointments in life, I am thankful that my faith is not what it used to be – it is better!

For eight months I was out of work because of the covid. But praise God, even though it was difficult, I was able to spend time with my daughter and dive into her world a little more to try to understand the tremendous burdens she carries and what it will take for her get better.

I became more thankful FOR her problems because she educated me on how she lives every day in her mind. I would take what I learned and applied it to my knowledge bank so that I could guide and encourage her in a new way. I was and still am thankful for how God opened doors and brought individuals into our lives that specifically work in the areas of my daughter’s disabilities and struggles. God is good.

God never changes. Our circumstances change, our lives change, and God remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. So until now and Thanksgiving Day, find at lease one thing to be thankful for in your life and include your child into that time of Thanksgiving. I promise, your spirit will be filled with praise, thankfulness, and peace in the midst of any storm you are faced with. Thank you God for your goodness!

My Life In Pieces – Healing for the Abused and Broken

 

I was introduced to Alice many years ago.  Funny, interesting, creative, and eventually a good friend, her heart was BIG and caring. She loved the Lord with her very being.  Behind those wonderful characteristics however, she was raised with a dark past that no one would want to go through.  Growing up, her life was filled with satanic ritual abuse that evolved into dissociative mental disorder.

Very few knew the details of her life.  She was one of strength, courage, and more importantly, her dedication to Christ to whom she gave her life to. This was a decision she never regretted, as she often said, “Without God, I would be dead.”  Alice was no longer a victim but a survivor in Christ Jesus. Courageously, her life showed what the power of God can do.  This is her story.

If you are the parent of a teen or young adult with a mental illness, disorder, or abused and broken, this book is for you.

The Monster That Lives Within

The Monster That Lives Within - Anchor Of Promise

Have you ever thought for a random second or two that there is something really wrong with your child?  Did a horrendous thought pop in your head about your child doing something that is beyond your scope to imagine?  Maybe it was a word spoken, an action taken, a response you were not expecting. 

Maybe your son or daughter made a comment about how much they hated the world and wanted to rid them. Maybe it was a slammed door that reverberated throughout the house by a trigger that set them off in anger and violence. How about the moment in which you see markings on your child from self-harm or written words on their body that made you wonder what they have gotten themselves into now.   Continue reading

How to Help Teens in Crisis Thru CoronaVirus Epidemic

How to Help Teens in Crisis Thru CoronaVirus Epidemic - Anchor Of Promise

 

 

Families stuck in their homes.  Four walls. No personal room to breathe and dealing with a teen or young adult in crisis.  Yikes! How in the world as a parent am I going to get through this?

Well, we can go under or rise above it.  Today, I rise above it. How? First pray!  You cannot successfully survive unless you put God and prayer first.  That’s not a thought. This is imperative if you want to get through the coming days and weeks.

So let me get frank.  I have a daughter with multiple issues.  PTSD, CAPD, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Short Term Memory issues, and the list goes on.  I have survived ten years with these problems. They were much worse than what they are now. In fact, suicidal ideology, sub-culture identity issues, self-harm, and a few others were added into that mix many years ago.

I am amazed in my tenacity and perseverance that kept me going when there were many times I struggled with the idea of giving up.  I was tired, worn, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and filled with shame as a parent. Continue reading

Teen = Rebellion

Teen = Rebellion - Anchor Of Promise

 

 

Oh that wonderful word – REBELLION. You beg and plead for your child to change their ways; Stop smoking! Stop drinking! Stop hanging out with the wrong kids! Stop getting into trouble with the law! Stop, Stop, STOP!!!

Kids live off of it and you want to do everything in your power to stop that rebellion.  But the fact is, you can’t. I have cried my eyes over my daughter’s rebellious behavior to no avail.  Some parents get desperate and find ways to discipline them into change. They remove their precious treasures like the phone, sports, and friends.  They bribe them with money, games, trips, and so on. You name it, parents have tried it. Continue reading